Why Is There a Need for Small Revenge in the Couple and How Normal Are They?

About small revenge as a couple - have you ever ordered a corn pizza, even though you know all too well that your partner can't stand corn, then say innocently, "oops, I forgot; Well, you can pick the beans. "… Or cook a recipe for dinner for two, secreting a little of an ingredient that your partner dislikes, just so he doesn't feel it, but so that you can enjoy watching him eat greedily? !…

These are the little revenge in the couple - small acts that you know don't suit your partner, which makes you feel better… Maybe it sounds childish and weird - why, when you love your partner, do you want to intentionally do something dislike?

Simple: being and living every day with another person, a different person with your habits and preferences, is not easy at all. You can be happy as a couple, but there is often a small silent fight in the background between partners: a struggle to impose yourself, to show what does not suit you, to gain space.

There are, of course, frustrations accumulated in life as a couple: your partner has some habits and opinions that irritate you, that make you roll your eyes and snort. But with these little acts of revenge of the couple, you get rid of those frustrations without provoking any unnecessary discussion that can turn into an argument, you just rebel so much that you feel good. Often, you do one of these acts after your partner has irritated you with something (on the "eye for an eye" principle).

Examples of small revenge in a couple:

Change the place of his objects. Does your partner carefully put his jacket in a certain place? Should she always keep her coffee cup in place? Do they keep their personal belongings in a certain order? Well, there is nothing more satisfying when you are a little irritated than moving objects and watching him/her rearrange them sullenly or desperately looking for them! "Where's my camera, so I always keep it there?" - "I don't know darling, you know I don't walk with her"…

"Forget" something that asked you. Did your friend ask you in the evening not to forget to take out the trash in the morning? Did your friend ask you not to forget to buy his favorite chips when you arrive? Oops - something happened and you just forgot! And maybe you feel a little sick - but you seem to be enjoying the "rebellion"…

Do something that you know irritates your partner. The boyfriend can't stand to see you dressed in a certain dress - but you wear it exactly when you go out on a special date time…

You refuse to do something proposed by your partner, even if you like it. Your partner suggests you do something on the weekend - but you're so irritated that you stubbornly refuse to tell him dryly that you don't feel like it and that it's a horrible idea. His bewildered look gives you the taste of victory… "You want to go to the movies, I haven't been in a long time" - "Do you think I feel like going to that stupid movie?".

You say something intimate about an acquaintance's partner. You know that he/she will make you jump when you discuss intimate details about him/her and yet you can't help it! And not just because you feel the need to say something to someone - but because you feel revenge that someone will find that embarrassing (sure, not too embarrassing)…

Then, if your need to express your frustration is still not satisfied, you even tell your partner in a relaxed way that "I met X and I told him about your problem with… and he said that…". The look of your partner gives you a forbidden pleasure and it's as if you're thinking "I did it for you"!

You throw an object "by mistake". The partner has the tic to collect a lot of things as a souvenir, which he likes and cherishes, but which do you think are more suitable in the garbage? Then no small revenge in the couple is tastier than throwing a useless object by mistake. "I didn't realize it was useful," you say with a sincere regret on your face.

Don't send him a message … until it's too late. "By the way, Vasile had called, he said that the boys see each other in football today, but I forgot, I'm sorry" I'm telling you "…" By the way, your girlfriend had called two days ago, she said she was engaged, but I forgot to tell you "…

These kinds of small revenge as a couple are acts by which we relax, acts that are childish (as if you were sticking out your tongue and saying "na-na-na-na-na-nah"). They are not out of the ordinary as a couple and it does not mean that the partners are not happy together. As has been said, living together is not always so easy…

Often, we stop at the taste of knowing that we have done something that would irritate our partner, without him even realizing it.