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Why has it become complicated to build strong and lasting relationships?

by kikolo162 2 months ago in advice
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Why has it become complicated to build strong and lasting relationships?
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You have this feeling of loneliness that worries you, you find it difficult to trust others, you are invaded by a fear of rejection, the management of your daily difficulties weighs heavily on you because fighting these problems tire you, and you feel more and more no more major difficulties in containing yourself, sometimes you are on the verge of tears, you would like to be much more accepting of others for what you are.

At present, the desire to be respected and to be considered is a primordial need that you need to develop yourself socially. You feel the need to have rich relationships that contribute to your happiness, but the lack of self-love and self-confidence becomes more and more difficult is the element that hinders your liberation, and this is because of contempt and the rejection we suffer. It prevents us from helping ourselves when we encounter hardships, and we feel incomprehension about what we are going through.

Which makes us realize more that deep down we are alone. Be attentive to what will follow because you will have the secret codes to free yourself definitively from the feeling of loneliness in life which hinders a fundamental part of your happiness. And that is why we are going to ask ourselves certain questions, in particular, this one:

Why do you have this feeling of loneliness and why are you alone?

The human enigma

We are not going to beat around the bush for long, we are going to say what we need to hear and not what we want to hear. The human being lives in total incomprehension, today few people manage to understand themselves first. For example, when an ordeal occurs daily. The first instinct is to focus and monopolize this problem. We ruminate The feeling of negativity about this difficulty that happens in life. `

In general, we no longer seek to solve this problem, but just to think about the negative facet of this problem. This is why many live in the past. And others consider what unfolded as a life experience that has hardened them, only because they consider that they have endured this ordeal.

But what about reality and behind the scenes?

The truth is that the negative feeling that destroyed or caused pain has not gone away. Most people have waited for a certain period until the thoughts related to this state of negativity dissipate even a little bit. So people don't fight the problem, he just lets the pain go like the waves of the sea. hide behind what hit them.

You must know that there is a law, called the law of polarity, which says that nothing or any circumstance cannot exist until there are its identical opposites. Nothing in the universe can exist if what is contrary to it also exists. It's a law just like gravity, whether you believe it or not, or whether you accept it or not, a law is there and you can't change how it works. So the one who seeks to understand himself is adjusting the focus of his mind to what he can fix and what he has mastered, this person will have already done 70% of the work.

The reason for the inner difficulty

You have seen that if you do not know how to be your friend and you do not love yourself, you will never be able to be the friend of anyone else and to be able to love others.

Another universal law says:

" YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW".

Sow respect you will reap respect, Sow sharing and you will reap donations, sow self-esteem and your whole environment will love you. Now as we often say, that's easier said than done. But know one thing, if deep down you want to change your situation you will make even a minimum of effort to make it happen.

For example, you are not going to be asked to make a lot of effort overnight. But if every day you learn to look at what you have or what went well in your day, then once the evening comes before going to bed you focus on this beautiful thing and you take the time to smile and have gratitude or joy for that element will demonstrate your commitment to wanting to be a happy person. To understand the fulfillment problem of 97% of people today, download your podcast for free which is at the end of this article.

Now, on the other hand, we seek to fulfill our feelings of loneliness and emptiness through others. So what happens is that we tend to quickly throw away our trust in people who aren't necessarily worth it. And when we realize our mistake, it's usually too late because the emotional damage that was done goes a long way in your heart.

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