Why don’t we love like this?

Love subtly.

Doing things for each other behind the scenes,

without thinking of what you will get in return,

Sometimes they ll notice it, and reciprocate it,

And when they don’t notice,

You’re free to be mad…

Then when they ask you’re mad, you tell them and get them to make up for that.

For some times, when you’re both mad at each other and not talking,

Take turns who will be the one to tone down their EGO and go ask the other,” what’s wrong?”

Fight was so bad, that you feel like I don’t care even if it’s my turn then that means it’s the start of the crumbling.

You can either keep ego or keep love in life, can’t have both.

Love each other While keeping your own sense of self, without losing yourself,

Live how you both wanna live, how and receive love the way you want to,

But, when one of you get mad at other, then love spoil each other with what they want, to show each other how you can cast aside your ego to not to lose each other,

Why people think think that when you’re better half is mad at you, this only means they love you and that is their way of showing Love and when you take all their anger in and forgive them without any consequences, this is how you show Love?

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It’s as if abuse is Love.

Man feels powerless out there and abuse their partner to feel powerful somewhere.

Woman hears Harshness out there, and just wanna hear Sweetness, Fakeness will work too.

LOVE-ing someone at the Surface level is a very SCARY place, without having build proper TRUST,

It’s a SAD thing that people who found sustainable TRUE LOVE is very rare and it’s regarded as a huge achievement in your LIFE to get where it should be the norm.

One of them, is gonna be the one who isn’t able to TRUST because of their Insecurities and Trauma, always gonna be thinking about when the Time is gonna come when their partner will leave them for someone better because of low self-esteem.

Feeling always on HIGH ALERT, always be Prepared to face that Betrayal,

Always suspicious of everything, feeling controlling every movement of the partner can only give them PEACE of MIND.

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Relationship for me, for two people, looks like singing duet in a karaoke, both are singing what they wanna sing and both are enjoying, nowadays Relationship feels like a Speech in an Election, one is always speaking and other is always listening, that’s just Boring.

What I thought after finding my One True Love…

Every girl I Dated, every good and bad experience ,the Toxicity,

Every Trauma, every Insecurity you gained with Time,

As you keep on learning what you like or dislike, emotionally,

Falling in love, how do I explain it, your pet peeves, the things you don’t like about someone else, you love it when the one you LOVE do it,

how she walk with purpose,

The Way she pouts when you don’t say good morning to her,

How brows strains when she’s mad at you,

The way she clouds her worries in anger,

How she React to my Joke,

The way the mole on her chin moves when she smiles,

How happy she gets when I notice she’s wearing something new,

The way she stutter her words when her feelings get Hurt.

Yeah, we’re both assertive.

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It’s been 9 months I am with her and I feel all of this everyday and it just keep on growing as each day I get to see a new expression of her for me to admire.

Everyday apart from her, causes restlessness about where she is and what she’s doing, what if something happened to her as she’s careless when it comes to take care of herself, because put her Work before herself, she’s that dedicated.

If someone is trying to hit on her, you get the Idea.

Just simply, Afraid of Losing Her.

Some people will say This is just the Honeymoon Phase, and slowly you’ll start to get annoyed with each other, or you’re just writing this to Justify trying to control your partner.

The thing about the Honeymoon Phase and Controlling thing, the end goal is to make sure your Partner doesn’t leave you, be it Love Bombing or Self-harming yourself emotionally or physically because you feel it’s better to hurt yourself rather than hurting your partner. Avoiding talking about if it’s wrong or right, it’s simply just a way for someone to show how much they Love n Care about someone when they’re afraid of Losing them.

What is right, what is wrong…acceptable or not…. I say it’s the limit of your Self-Respect and Boundaries.

Coz when the love bombing n self-harm goes over the limit, it becomes guilt trip.

And mental stability is a big factor to stay in love.

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True Love is like a roller coaster of Emotions, someone who can’t regulate their emotions can’t sustain True Love.

Sure, sometimes there comes Dark times, when you unwillingly go over the threshold.

For what, wouldn’t it be easier if you both know how to handle each other during those times?

Both are able to communicate beforehand how they get and how to handle them, which only comes if you really who you are and accept yourself.

And to know yourself is to know your strengths n weaknesses and then first you fall in love with yourself.

That’s why they say you gotta Love yourself before you Love someone else.

Both knowing how to get you from going over the limit, but of course with boundaries, you will need to take a break too once in a while emotionally with each other, because Love is just that overwhelming, and to take a break right, there should be Trust, Faith in each other, and having faith in GOD you both will come back together when the time is right without any complication that happened during the break, then again, Faith comes into play.

Love demands a Strong Will, a Resolve to always choose your Love and Resolve to stand by your Self-Respect no matter what.

If you Dare Ask the Universe/God for a LOVE like No Other, first Ask to be Ready to Receive it.

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If you Read through all that... I'd like to Hear your Idea of Love too, you listened to Mine so i am obligated to listen to yours, no?