When and How to Forgive a Person

it is always a coincidence that we would like to erase with the sponge in our life.

Thus, the following questions arise in our minds: When someone dishonors or betrays our trust, should we forgive that person? How and when should we forgive someone? When should we draw the line and not offer our forgiveness because it affects our lives?

The volatility of subjective circumstances varies enormously between the various incidents in the life of each individual and that is why the answer to the above questions is not universally valid. However, there are explicitly defined points that come to our aid, in the form of 10 simple words that anyone should consciously evaluate when contemplating the logic behind forgiveness.

Moreover, we must remember that it is not recommended to focus only on the negative act itself, but also on those who followed it and had effects of any kind in our lives.

So, let's ask ourselves, how were these points affected?

The Family

The family is a direct link between our past and the people who have remained in our lives over time. Was the family involved, attacked, or used against us in any way?

The Money

Money is seen as one of the most essential elements of our personal life. Was the money involved, directly or indirectly? Were there any long-term effects related to them in our lives?

Love

Love is the strongest feeling a person can have. So, where were our feelings about the love we had for someone crushed in any way? Who was affected? Was this based on the direct actions of a third party? Are the effects permanent in our lives?

Respect

Respect represents integrity in principles and the foundation for our relationships of any kind with a particular person. Did a person act differently than we expected? Were there certain things that highlighted the lack of moral values ​​of a third person? How has respect or disrespect changed a situation?

Trust

Most, if not all, interpersonal relationships are based on the trust that is formed as a result of the experiences we have with a person. Sincerity, character and open communication build trust over time. Did anyone use the trust I placed in them? Did he betray us by telling us secrets? Could we ever regain confidence in that person?

Friendship

Friendship is a bond created by the mutual feeling of love, trust, loyalty. Did betrayal break out of friendship? Has loyalty been set aside for a passing interest in someone else?

Past

The things and events of the past are what have shaped the present as it is now. How "rooted" is the person who betrayed our trust in the past? Can we look at life without it?

Betrayal

Betrayal is the violation, the violation of our trust by a person. How were we betrayed? Is betrayal against us objective or only from our point of view? What do those close to you think about this betrayal? Is there another facet to the story that needs to be heard?

Intention

Intention exists before action and leads to a precise goal. So what was the intention of the person who betrayed us? Were we directly related to the outcome of the intention? What are that person's intentions now?

Instinct

Instinct is our inherited perception of the things that happen to us in life, the sixth sense. So what does it tell us instinctively about the situation or the person … now and in the future?

Bottom Line

If we were perfect, there would be no forgiveness. But, as people make mistakes, they sin, there is forgiveness, for some as a saving solution, for others as unacceptable. Forgiveness is a central element of the Christian religion, but also our health and emotional balance

We talk about forgiveness in many ways: we ask for forgiveness, we want forgiveness, we long to be able to forgive, we forgive, we say we will never forgive. "Sometimes we use the term without delving into the complexity and importance of forgiveness - offered and received - because we are referring to the conventional surface part without delving into the depths of this act. 

We often ask for forgiveness without experiencing real regret, we offer forgiveness without checking to see if the change has were taken place in our soul. How often do we say "Forgive me!", How easily do we answer "It's okay!"