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Ways and tips on how to have a happy long-lasting relationship

Fix your relationship now and grow old together as couples

By Phillemon MasimongPublished 2 years ago 4 min read

It is true that love is blind, or rather that passion is blind. Surely, you must have seen a couple of lovers who, moved by passion, say they are made for each other, thus ignoring the various differences that exist between them and the logic of the relationship, just because they are moved by feelings and the comfort of the relationship; around them, everyone sees that that relationship won't work out for various reasons, but only the loving couple can't see it.

We have feelings, and they are important, but they are not enough to sustain a relationship, since the fire of passion that ignites these feelings will fade as well. In other words, if your choice of who to date was not made out of a free and conscious decision, you could be in a lot of trouble.

Does every relationship have hard times?

Dating is about choosing the person you will marry and build a family with for the rest of your life. Your ability to maintain and grow this family will be supported by your choice being well-thought-out, free, and intelligent, as every relationship goes through difficult times, and you will too. Nevertheless, if your decision was well thought through and aligned with the grace of God, then you will be able to walk to the end and grow day after day in what, in fact, is the experience of love and family. When faced with the first problem, those who did not make a lucid decision decide to end the relationship, having built a fragile and weak relationship on the sand.

To be able to make the right choice, however, it is necessary to advise yourself well in order to prevent blurring of your vision and your inability to see reality and to build your life on the basis of emotion rather than reason. I'm not talking about finding the perfect person here, because he doesn't exist - only God is perfect. The same is true for finding a person who is ready since if you wait for someone like that, you will never get married.

Advice and discernment

But the good advice of a virtuous person will help you in this choice process. It's not that you will totally hand over your life's direction in the hands of others, no. But you also don't have to make this important and serious decision in your life alone.

You can look for virtuous people who can advise you, if possible, before even starting a relationship, which would be great and prudent.

They will help you to better discern your choice and lead you to see something that you may not be seeing, maturing your decision. Look among your friends for those who are most experienced and wise, who lead a life of holiness, who are God-fearing; a priest, a spiritual director, their parents, or someone in the family, if they are not emotionally involved with that person. Anyway, wise people who can advise you and tell you what they think of this choice you are making.

How to find love and a good boyfriend?

We all wish for magic rules to make love right, we wish for a happy ending or a life without suffering! Deep down, the love story we want for ourselves is one where we live peacefully and happily ever after. Dating is a very important phase of construction in which, in fact, we remove the idea that we have built-in our head: “Oh, I want a man like that!”. And we come to live with what is real: we are two limited people who are trying and learning to love. There are no secrets to living, just learning to love, loving!

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How to find a good girlfriend?

To get a girlfriend, you must learn to be comfortable in your own skin; confidence in yourself is the key to getting to know and seducing your partner. The traits of confidence, as well as autonomy, are very attractive to a woman, so you should work on them before thinking about having a girlfriend.

Having a wider circle of female friends will increase your chances of getting a girlfriend, so you will learn to know and relate to them better, and possibly your future partner will be among them. You just have to be patient.

Don't be afraid to approach women constantly. If you see a woman you like, approach her and start a conversation. Do not be afraid or ashamed because if you don't try, you won't succeed, so whenever you go out and wherever you are, start a conversation with a woman who attracts you.

The daily routine is filled with places full of potential for love: bars, shopping malls, cinemas, libraries. Fear of failure is just an excuse and is also completely irrational, if you like a girl, do not be afraid to talk to her with lots of education and ingenuity. You will find that you will meet someone who will surely lend you a hand.

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In love, everything is built

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In naming some of the characteristics of what is expected of a good boyfriend, I dare say, don't expect a good boyfriend to be one who is flawless or perfect, or perhaps someone who won't hurt or let you down. On the contrary, the good boyfriend is the one who, in the face of all this, will choose for you and for the good of the relationship! A good boyfriend is a mature man who has understood that love doesn't live in perfection! Love is the construction of two imperfect beings, together with the perfect of the perfect: It is not too late to fix your relationship get your free relationship ebook now. Good luck!!

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