Top 10 Reasons for Jealousy in the Couple, Why the Partners Quarrel

Why would we make a top 10 reasons for jealousy in a couple? Because, no matter how much jealousy is said to be a negative emotion that can affect a couple's relationship, jealousy is in many situations a normal reaction! It is very good to know in what situations you can expect your partner to become jealous.

Often, even if there is no concrete reason for jealousy, there is a very simple explanation. This doesn't necessarily mean jealousy is rational - on the contrary, the truth is that emotion is instinctive, irrational, so it's hard to explain it or say "you don't have to be jealous"! A partner may know that he "shouldn't" be jealous, but he can't control his emotions. However, it is good for everyone to know what situations trigger the jealousy of their partner.

So, top 10 reasons for jealousy in a couple:

That colleague… The first in the top 10 reasons for jealousy is also extremely common. It is quite possible to have a relationship of collegiality or friendship with a person of the opposite sex. Either we get along well with someone at work/college, or we have a friend we talk to and go out with from time to time.

Well, no matter how normal it is to have colleagues and friends of the opposite sex, it doesn't take much for the couple's partner to become jealous. If it seems to you that the relationship is too close or that you spend too much time talking to that person, you are only at a distance from intense jealousy and quarrels over nothing. Although everyone has the right to have a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, you must also be aware that there are limits - limits that if ignored, trigger the jealousy of your partner.

Don't go out with that person too often, don't talk too much (especially admiringly) about that person, don't tell your partner that you'd rather talk to that person than him/her. Even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person. And your partner thinks so, that's why she's jealous/jealous: although she may trust you, she's afraid that that friend has not very clear thoughts!

The Ex… Number two in the top 10 reasons for jealousy - this is a situation when you really can't criticize your partner's jealousy - when you keep in touch with an ex… It is said that ex-boyfriends can remain friends - but too few succeed.

Because especially if it's a former serious relationship, there are always memories and even traces of feelings that are far too great threats for the current partner. In vain would you explain to the current one that you no longer have feelings for your ex: if you no longer have feelings, why do you want to see him/her?! Maintaining a relationship (even just through messages) with an ex is an action that logically leads to jealousy.

And if you hide, the result is even worse - if he realizes, his partner will find you undoubtedly guilty - why would you avoid it?… If you think you can only be friends with an ex, first think: why - Why, if that person is in your past? Why do you feel the need to see him/her again, knowing that your current partner would suffer? And if you want to see each other from time to time, make sure that this happens in a group, not in a two-way meeting - otherwise, you can't complain that your current partner is jealous (it's as normal as possible )

Time together vs. group time. Time spent together is vital to a couple's relationship. If you spend more time with others (friends, colleagues, family) than with your partner, expect jealousy. But there is something else - if you show that you prefer to spend time together, but in a group, not in intimacy, jealousy is, again, only a step away.

Because your partner needs to know that you prefer to be alone with him/her, that you like privacy, and that you are not looking to escape.

Those looks… Although your partner trusts you, it is only logical that if he sees that you often look left and right with "those looks", if he realizes that you are physically attracted to other people, he becomes jealous/jealous.

The simple idea that you prefer sex with other people is enough… Sure, everyone, women and men, we notice other people who are sexually attractive around. But what matters is how much we look and how intensely. When your partner sees you looking intently, with that obvious gleam, at others, it's only natural that his / her instinct makes him / her jealous. So, eye control…

Sociability and innocent flirtation. Some people are simply extremely sociable, they like to be surrounded by people, to be admired, to communicate openly. But this extremely open and free behavior, nice to all, leads to jealousy of the couple's partner.

If you like to be surrounded by people, you talk to everyone, you are liked by many, your partner ends up feeling both ignored and threatened. If you have an open communication style, your partner may interpret it as a flirtation - and no matter how innocent a flirtation is, it attracts his jealousy. Sure, everyone likes to be admired and liked, but it doesn't suit their partner…

The Internet, blame it! Nowadays, if you don't even have a Facebook profile, you don't exist (in general)! But if you end up spending a lot of time online, if not a day goes by without exchanging opinions with other people and especially if you maintain an online friendship with a person of the opposite sex, expect the jealousy of your partner!

He will be jealous of both the time spent on the net and the people with whom you discuss so many personal things - that's why you should always pay attention and spend time with your partner. Virtual life must not gain ground over real life!

List of priorities. Almost everyone is a little (just a little) self-centered, and in a relationship, everyone feels the need to be, to be important, at the top of their partner's priority list.

If you pay more attention and time to other people/occupations, jealousy will be a problem at some point. If your list of priorities looks something like this: service; family; friends; money; Beloved, then of course your partner will be jealous. Showing that the other is important in your life is essential in any couple.

Lack of affection. Eighth place in the top 10 reasons for jealousy - closed behavior in itself, lack of open communication, lack of privacy, and evidence of love, all lead to fear that the person is not loved, not important, and therefore jealous.

If you do not talk to your partner, do not share intimate things with him/her, you are closed in and distant, if you do not offer gestures of affection, do not say "I love you" almost at all, your partner will think it is not important to you, will develop fear and will become jealous. The physical closeness, the gestures of affection, the intimate discussions, and from time to time an "I love you" do a lot in a couple…

Lack of self-confidence. Here is one of the 10 reasons for jealousy that have nothing to do with you (you could say it's not your fault at all)! Namely, when your partner does not have self-confidence and has low self-esteem. If you see that your partner has a negative self-image and always considers himself worse, uglier, weirder, etc. than others than you, it is normal that he will be jealous.

Why? Because if he is always underestimated and doesn't like himself, he will end up thinking "what is he/she doing with me?", "When will he/she leave me?", "I don't deserve him / her", / will steal it ". And these fears lead to jealousy as a reaction to self-defense. What can you do? Stimulate her self-confidence, show her how much you appreciate her, show her how good she is and that she is underestimated, show her how many reasons you have to love her!

Physical appearance. The last in the top 10 reasons for jealousy, is related to the previous one: physical appearance. The partners of a couple compare themselves, and if that comparison is clearly against one from a physical point of view, they will end up thinking "what is he/she looking for with me?"!

Those around us do not help the situation at all: often, when we see a couple in which one looks much better, we think that the most attractive one has hidden reasons, other than love, to be with the other. Because the first judgments are always superficial.

And the partner who is less physically attractive will consider himself even repulsive and will be jealous, thinking that one day, the boyfriend/girlfriend will find a partner of his level, just as attractive. What can you do? Same as the last case - emotional reassurance…