Thriving after heartbreak knowing that you have the ultimate triumph

It's easy to become sad in that moment when your ex appears to rapidly have continued on into a new relationship. But you know what? You actually have the upper hand in this situation. Allow me to make sense of why this, in actuality, should sound more promising to you.

Envision this situation: Boom! Your ex immediately enters a new relationship. In a flash, they switch from being with you to another person. It might seem like they've continued on at lightning speed; however, here's the interesting thing: It's likely that they haven't really moved on. No, not even remotely.

You see, when you move on from a previous relationship, like your ex did, you don't have time or space to process the breakup. You don't get that opportunity to think about what went wrong and what you could have done differently. Because it helps you move forward and determine what you want in new relationships, reflection time is extremely important.

As for the much-needed reflection time, your ex didn't get that open door. Without a break, they rushed into a new relationship. Therefore, despite the fact that they may appear to be in good spirits on the surface, they are probably still going through the same old feelings. They have not had an opportunity to develop or alter.

But the cool part is that breakups can be positively life-changing. It's like a phoenix coming back from the dead (whoosh!). Unlike your ex, you have the amazing opportunity to take your time. Give yourself some time to deal with the breakup and work on other things. Get back into your exercise routine if you've been putting it off, spend time with friends, and start planning the life you want. This is your chance to think about your ideal way of living and acting in the future.

What makes this so good? Prior to entering a new relationship, take the time to reflect on the situation after the breakup.

Now for the crucial part: Avoid the temptation to compete with your ex. I can assure you that you won't enjoy playing it. Who can move more quickly? Who can discover a new person first? No, no, and no! Thinking that way is not at all healthy. To heal and let go of the baggage from your previous relationships, you need time and space.

Also, you have the high ground in this present circumstance. Your ex is continuing to haul around their old behavior from your relationship since they haven't had that center space to figure things out. However, you are blessed with the ability to carry it out. You have time to process everything, work on yourself, stay in touch with loved ones, and plan the future of your life.

Therefore, here's how to view it: You have received an unexpected present from your ex. They've given you a new adventure and a fresh start! You have the chance to design a life that you truly enjoy. Don't feel bad about it or beat yourself up about it. All things being equal, consider it to be an opportunity to change and begin constructing the existence you need.

Keep in mind that you have the high ground now since you're permitting yourself to mend, to process, and to make a superior life. Therefore, I highly suggest that you take advantage of the gift that your ex-partner has unintentionally given you and embrace this new exciting adventure. It's your turn to shine and make your life something to be proud of.

As mentioned, some people might want to focus on their health and fitness, find new hobbies, reconnect with friends, or change careers. You might even want to start a side business to make more money and have more things in your life. There are so many opportunities for excitement! The deal is that you must determine the steps you can take to achieve those outcomes.

As for your ex-partner, they might not even be aware of what they are missing out on because they entered a new relationship so hurriedly. However, you're taking as much time as necessary, carrying on with a phenomenal life, and settling on great decisions. You're looking solid, cheerful, and restored. The secret sauce is as follows: All of this will bring back to them those positive memories of their ex. They'll be sorry they rushed into a new relationship and may even be sorry they broke up with you.

You see, it's not good for one's health to jump from one relationship to another without taking a break. I emphatically accept that after a separation, you really want no less than a half year to process, refocus, and go with positive decisions. It's your opportunity to plan the existence you need and make something astounding for yourself.

Despite the fact that it may appear as though your ex has the upper hand given and that they have moved on, the actual situation is quite the opposite. You have the upper hand! Do not compete with them in your search for a new partner or rush into a new one yourself. Let go of the unhealthy competition down the aisle.

I once witnessed a divorced couple make this mistake. The ex got remarried and right away the other partner, who wasn't even mentally in that space yet, had announced their upcoming marriage. It appeared as though they were vying for superiority over who could fill that void first and 'move on.' But believe me when I say that kind of competition is unhealthy and toxic.

You shouldn't rush down the aisle with a new person just to make a point. You need to completely forget about falling into the cycle of making that mistake. Because you are the one who is doing things correctly by concentrating on yourself. Take advantage of this time and space to recover, develop, and live the life you truly desire.

Keep in mind, this separation is a gift of a new chance for you. Consider it an opportunity to begin living life on your terms and a brand-new adventure. A new and healthy relationship will naturally enter your life when you focus on yourself and pursue your interests. Because you are doing things correctly, it will appear to have been orchestrated by God.

Don't forget that you have the advantage in this situation and keep your chin up. Create a life you're proud of and take advantage of the gift of the breakup. I can assure you that you are well on your way to doing something truly remarkable.