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Things That Make Men Obsessed With Women

by Ossiana Tepfenhart 5 years ago in list / dating / humanity / love
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There's many reasons men can't stop thinking about their significant other, aside from your beauty, there are many things that make men obsessed with women.

If there's one thing that's always stayed true without history, it's that men who are attracted to a woman will often obsess over her. In fact, when a man is in love, he can't stop thinking about his partner. It's an obsession that has made men throughout history go to the ends of the Earth just to be with the one they love.

Most women have wondered what makes men go so crazy over a girl at least once. What most girls don't realize is that it's often the simples little things that do it... and they may have that quality without even realizing it.

Her Gaze

Don't ask why, but most men really can't help but melt when an attractive girl looks that them. Even major scientific studies have shown that women who hold eye contact with men have a much higher chance of having that man fall in love with them.

That being said, most guys will still melt when they realize that a girl is checking them out. If you show a bit (but not too much) interest, or even if you just ogle him, he may get a bit crazy over showing off in front of you.

Your Nurturing Side

Deep down inside, most men are really just looking for a girl who can nurture them, build them up, and maybe be a good mother to their kids. That explains why so many men go nuts over a girl who can cook, a girl who cuddles them, and a girl "they can bring home to mom."

It's a feminine trait, and it's one that most men desperately crave in a life partner. In many cases, it's also rather rare to see. So, if you're a natural nurturer, you've probably had a couple of men obsess over you.

Your Looks

I'd be lying if I said that men didn't tend to obsess over women who fit their "type." But, most women don't realize that they don't need to be Barbie lookalikes to get guys to go nuts over them that way.

The truth of the matter is that most guys like women who aren't perfect. Many men prefer women with a little tummy, a stretch mark, or maybe a bunch of funky freckles. After all, those do show character - and at the end of the day, guys want a girl who's real.

Your Sense of Style

Take a quick moment to think about the biggest sex symbols of modern history. Audrey Hepburn had her signature style involving her Breakfast At Tiffany's look, complete with pearls, conservative haircut, and a Little Black Dress. Marylin Monroe's signature style is equally recognizable thanks to her bombshell blonde hair style and her elegantly feminine dresses.

Simply put, sometimes guys fall in love with the way a woman presents herself. Think about it - would Nicki Minaj be as heavily desired if she didn't have that wild, untamable style of dress? Or, would guys be so obsessed with Kylie Jenner if she didn't have that fashionable vibe around her? Probably not.

Your Depth and Intelligence

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Most guys will, at one point or another, lament how hard it is to find a woman who can talk to them about deep subjects. Though it's common to hear people tell women to "play dumb" around men, most guys aren't impressed by that.

Women who "play dumb" are a dime a dozen. By separating yourself from the others and challenging men, you make them look at you differently - in a great way.

Your Confidence and Assertiveness

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For far too long, society has told women that they should "doormat" for men. Even men will often say that they wish women would be more submissive and "nice" to them - but the fact is that this isn't really what they want in a girl.

Doormats aren't confident, and insecurity isn't sexy. What guys want to see is the kind of strength and assertiveness it takes to tell them that you won't put up with their bullshit.

Your Opinion of Them

Illustration by Anna Sudit

Some guys get obsessed with the girl who's not interested in them, solely because that girl is the one girl who doesn't find them attractive enough. Other guys become totally enamored with a girl because she sees so much good in them when everyone else doesn't.

In other words, guys really, truly care what women think of them. Sometimes, they end up caring to the point that it's pathological. The funny thing about this is that it's often hard to tell if it's your opinion that has men so hung up over you, or if it's something else.

Go figure, right?

Your Sexuality

When push comes to shove, a woman's sexuality has a huge impact on a man's attraction to her. This doesn't mean that you have to be way more sexual than you want to be, or that you have to be a Virgin Mary.

The fact is that men fantasize about women on a sexual level, and different guys want different characteristics from women. Some want a raunchy, crazy BDSM queen. Others want that super innocent, demure type.

No matter how a woman packages her sexuality, you can bet some guy out there would go nuts over it.

Your Cooking Skills

My mother always told me, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach." You know what? She's right! Many a man has made the decision to marry a woman based on her skills in the kitchen, and some guys still will tear up when they smell something that resembles an ex's cooking from afar.

Do not underestimate how important cooking skills can be. Even if it sounds old fashioned and sexist, good culinary skills will always be sexy to men - and women - who want long term love.

The Way You Made Them Feel

You can probably think about one person who always had a way of making you smile, who may have gone away for one reason or another. People might forget your clothing, your quotes, or even the way that you looked. However, one thing that will always remain with them is how you made them feel - and if you made them feel great, it's obvious why they may still think about you after all these years.


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Ossiana Tepfenhart

Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer based out of New Jersey. This is her work account. She loves gifts and tips, so if you like something, tip her!

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