The Art of "Dry Begging"

What is "Dry Begging"? It is a form of manipulation that involves a person to stress a financial burden, or need for financial assistance and not make a request directly to a close party of interest; to only hope that the close party offers assistance to support the need or situation at hand. Why do people "Dry Beg"? The most two common reasons I can think of are to test loyalty, or see how far the giver will provide in a relationship. Now "Dry Begging" can take place on any level of relationship. It's most commonly used on a dating, or even marriage relationship level, but we are going to focus on why it hinders the dating relationship.

When I first heard Judge Mathis coin this term on one of his shows, it never hit me as to what women have been doing to me in the past. I even saw it in my marriage in the past, but let's stick to dating. Often too many times I hear that women have to see if a man will provide for them or not. So this is the reason most women use the method of "Dry Begging" and try to justify their actions. It is always a shame when people don't focus on showing who they are, instead, they try to expose the opposite for what they can receive. I am not saying that helping out your potential significant other with a financial situation is a horrible thing to do; just be careful when and how it should be done. Yes, some men do it as well, but I will never know because I only date women, so I will leave my focus on the women that "Dry Beg" and highlight why it should stop.

Speaking to the men! Here is a failsafe rule that should be in the back of your mind if you are dating a woman you recently met. Never offer financial assistance to the person in need until they have been known for at least one year. Pay for dates and do so wisely, but leave personal issues off the table until after one year. We live in an age of the "Independent Woman" and she should know how to take care of herself. Well, most of them claim independence when you meet them within the first 30 minutes. Why should there be a test of manhood and display that the man can provide if she presents a "Dry Begging" situation? Is it not enough that he is paying for dates and entertainment?

The dating phase has so much more to offer. Why spoil it on something that could be so seasonal, money? There will be times that come about and a far greater test will be in need, greater than the depths of his pockets. Instead of focusing on "Dry Begging", focus on the character of the person. Anyone can throw money at a situation, but what happens when there is no money to throw? How are other solutions going to come about when those solutions require deep thought. However, what is the main purpose of "Dry Begging" is only in the thoughts of the manipulator.

Will "Dry Begging" ever stop? Might not! Guard yourselves accordingly and beware of the person who submits to these methods because they can never be taken seriously. We all live in a world where testing people is a must. However, leave people's money alone and find other ways to see if they are true to you or not. Too many situations have ended up on the bad end when money and emotions are played with.

In dedication to Rochelle Marie Cave (Showers) who motivated me to write this.