The 3 C’s of a Life Partnership Relationship

There are three C’s that interlink and overlap together in a committed relationship to make the relationship complete.

The three C’s are Communication, Consummation, and Consolidation. It is possible to think of any one of the three independently as required for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It is also possible to see the power of three when all are present and in force where one strengthens and multiplies the other causing the relationship to be empowered with a force to withstand all challenges whether they be long gaps in time together, finances, individual goals, family, work, or any outside influence.

COMMUNICATION

In an age where social media, texting, and email is a requisite to work, and time efficiency, it is not a complete and effective communication. There is limited nuance and much room for misunderstanding. Periodic face to face communication through presence is needed to maintain solid and high quality communication. This involves presence, eye contact, touch, and proximity. Verbal and non-verbal communications are imperative to truly communicate. Some communication is through sharing the same view or experience together and can be non-verbal. My Dad always said, even before electronic communication tools as we know them today, “If it takes longer than five minutes, go see them.”

This is not to say text, email, and even phone conversations aren’t valid but that the anchor of true communication is in that which involves the five senses. This is one reason why food and fellowship together binds all types of relationships.

True communication results in understanding the needs, wants, and desires of the two partners. It helps determine who is in the lead on a particular joint mission and who is in support. Communication results in each knowing the tasks that they need to perform together to make each other stronger together than they could ever be individually.

Face to face communication develops its own language between the two partners that sometimes becomes just a look or a sign of mutual understanding when with others. Trigger words, positive or negative are added or removed from the vocabulary to the betterment of each one.

Of all the three C’s, if this foundational element is not exercised, developed, and practiced, then the following elements of Consummation and Consolidation cannot be attained.

CONSUMMATION

Webster dictionary defines consummation as “Complete or Final.” In the traditional sense it involves two people joining together sexually as one. This can be expanded to understand that kissing, napping, spooning, touching, teasing, and expressions of desire for the five senses to be intertwined in a way that is not shared with another person.

This can especially be a requisite when one or both of the partners are undergoing health or personal trauma and the traditional definition cannot be fulfilled. Nonetheless, consummation of the partnership is a critical key that interlinks with communication in a private and personal way that results in intimacy.

The more unorthodox the relationship is due to circumstances the more critical the cement of consummation is to the partnership. Consummation requires the two partners willing to openly wanting to breathe in the others air, touch, presence, and intentional sharing of one to the other.

It is an action with a spiritual component, which communicates beyond what words could ever convey and develops unique intimacy and is the foundation of total Consolidation.

CONSOLIDATION

Consolidation is an outflow of commitment to one another which some call “Love.” This is where all one has is freely shared in the Life Partnership whether it be property, possessions, money, doubts, fears, threats, hopes, dreams, goals, challenges, and desires.

In the military, where four planes are flying in a tight formation, all pilots are focused as one unit to the point of direction to fulfill the mission. If the one in the lead for that mission flies into the side of a mountain the commitment to each other is so strong that there will be four crashes and not one. Consolidation and commitment (Love) is the building block of trust that intertwines and becomes the bedrock foundation with Communication and Consummation that can endure anything.

The Three C’s: Communication, Consummation, and Consolidation

Communication, Consummation, and Consolidation combined together make a partnership unbreakable and all enduring whether geographically, life circumstance, or time challenged.

It is said that “the two shall become as one.” This is not just referring to sex as a traditionally held belief. It conveys so much more. It steers us to understand, when two people join together in a partnership, that the three C’s, Communication, Consummation, and Consolidation are the way to a complete partnership.

A partnership that is empowered, strengthened, protected, and complete to the Third Power whereas one alone could not attain. The three C’s create trust where two people can stand side by side in life, back to back in distress, or in tandem when on mission.

If not practiced and maintained over time, it is this writer’s opinion based on life experience and observation of those around him, that a Lifetime Partnership Relationship will not withstand the factors and challenges that the world imposes on them without the three C’s.

Whether a traditional partnership, involving legal marriage, or a non-traditional non-legal partnership, the three C’s in a Life Partnership Relationship are the key to endurance, peace, patience, unlimited trust, happiness and joy together.