Take A Break From The Relationship. Does It Work?

Taking time off is the equivalent of putting your relationship in "hospitalization", it requires a thorough treatment or even an operation and there is always the possibility that someone will leave the crew, although during those days in the hospital you hope, and they hope, that everything will get better.

According to the experts, men are more reluctant to make this type of decision because it is women who suggest it more often.

They tend to think that this break is just the prelude to the break and they don't see much use in it.

Women, however, are used to talking about their feelings from a young age, mobilize their social support network, and begin to think about the problem and look for solutions.

Men, mainly middle-aged men, talk about it with friends, but they never show themselves to be vulnerable, which prevents them from getting to the bottom of it.

However, if the situation is serious, professional help is recommended because it is easy for you or he to have a partial and personal view of the problem and be unable to see the other's perspective. Of course, in that kind of couples therapy, you both have to go to the office," he added.

The secret of a harmonious coexistence is not to forget that you are both independent beings and that to get along with your partner you first have to do it with yourself.

This means that you have to allow time for yourself and not plan everything together. Do things alone, with your friends because this avoids that overdose that leads to the need to separate for a few days.

When women ask for a break

1. When the problems don't stop.

Communication is vital in any relationship.

If yours is failing because you notice that arguments are a daily occurrence, perhaps it is time to take some time to think and understand the dimension of what is going on.

Or go to couples therapy to try to find a way to work out your differences.

2. Don't forgive with sincerity.

If he was unfaithful to you and you say you forgive them, but from the mouth outward and not from the heart.

Or, the one who failed was you and so far your guy hasn't managed to get over that episode. He doesn't trust you!

3. No sex.

Sex isn't everything, but it's a basic need because it's a time of connection and it doesn't even release endorphins, hormones related to stress relief and responsible for improving your self-esteem.

If you were wonderful in bed before and now with luck and he kisses you good night, you have noticed that he is distant, in a bad mood... talk to him.

4. No time for two.

At first it all seems like a fairy tale, you spend quality time, however, once your relationship progressed you stopped spending time together because you were each doing your own thing.

You have two ways to go, separate yourself with a return date or put your cards on the table to find out what's going on.

Now, this break has its consequences. We're telling you so you'll be prepared:

- Opens doors for communication problems.

These problems increase because that pause is supposed to mean zero physical contact, WhatsApp and so on. You won't get a chance to talk, solve, and possibly get questions.

- Makes the break more painful

Because it creates a false hope for both of you that it will work, but if you have strong problems, you may not be compatible.

- The break does NOT solve anything, say the experts.

Ok, you ask your partner for a break, both feel liberated in the moment, but as the days go by you realize you miss him, he starts sending flowers, letters and text messages asking to see you.

Days later you notice that those days apart didn't solve anything. Give it just a few weeks and you'll realize that they'll come back to the same thing, people don't change after a small breakup.

- You will resent your partner.

If it was you who asked for it or vice versa, you will feel confused and resentful. Why does she want or ask for a break? What is she not telling you?

- It's immature.

If you don't see a future, why put it off? In this case it is not healthy to go slowly, be an adult, identify your emotions, what you want and make a decision.

- If you ask for time, you may not be interested in that person.

Your relationship is not like video games, which you pause and then continue to play.

In that time, whether or not you have sex

The specialists are clear and say that if the couple was left to have a break, but still have sex, it is a good prognosis because it means that there is still attraction and that despite the problems there is a solution.

The lack of desire is a major problem.