Every college student at one point or another has gone out to the club or the bar and drunkenly hooked up with some random person. Honestly, you haven't done college properly if you've never experienced that. Normally, that's what just about everyone goes to Atlantic City to do, and it almost always never fazes anyone. I, on the other hand, had an experience that not many people can say that they lived through.
One thing that many people can attest to is the sheer number of awesome, loving, and beautiful single women there are out there — all wondering why they're single.
Published 2 years ago
So, as a thirty four year old, unmarried (strong, independent) woman, I have had some interesting conversations with people who assume I am the last and most lonely single person to have ever lived. They look at me with concerned eyes and reassuringly say, 'well, the right one is out there, don't give up.' I am very polite and hold back my initial thoughts and simply reply 'I'm sure he is.'
Being single is amazing. Of course, being in a relationship is great, too. So great... But the single life is honestly the best life. You become an independent human being who isn't strapped down to just one person. You can flirt and have sex with whoever you want without having that guilty voice nagging you from the back. And you can tell that voice to just STFU because you're single and ready to mingle! Did I mention you don't have to impress anyone anymore? Dress like a slob and eat like a pig — no one is there to judge you.
The anticipation of his next text is exciting. What am I doing? Am I even ready? The text comes in. He asks to meet me. I always imagined I would be more wary in this kind of situation, but I’m not. Maybe the anticipation of a new experience clouds my judgement. I agree to meet him. Am I supposed to keep the conversation going by text? I'm terrible at texting. The thought of engaging him via text messages scares me. I can't flirt to save my life in person, let alone in texts. I play it safe and don’t even try.
If you are newly single there is good news in that studies show that it's a GOOD thing; so let's discuss the many ways that being single is good for your health. If you just ended a relationship it probably doesn't feel so great right now. You are examining your life ready to embark on a solo journey, and want a healthier attitude about it. You are ready to socialize but you aren't quite ready for another relationship. Here's something guaranteed to make you feel a whole lot better - a list of the ways being single is good for your health.
I’m sad.I’m lonely.I’m not depressed. Depression is medical; I’m just sad.
These ideas have been circling around in my mind for the past few weeks. I’ve been trying to avoid writing about relationships and romance, but the universe seems to be dropping hints compelling me to discuss this subject. As those close to me are likely aware, this is a topic that I hold very close to my heart; that is, accepting that I’m single.
She lies in the hammock, legs dangling, toes barely brushing the slightly damp grass; her arms behind her head and her long hair undone and hanging behind her to dry. She has been swimming all day, and she feels deliciously tired and happy. The light from the stars and the brightness of the moon are reflected off the water from the pool, leaving beautiful little ripples of light all over everything.
I never pictured myself alone at 29. I had grand visions of the perfect marriage, the perfect house, the perfect everything. No plans for how to get those things, but I had a vision. I knew what I wanted, and I figured that that was half the battle. But alone at nearly 30, that was never part of the goal.
They said being single is like the end of the world. You are alone as you watch couples going down the street hand-in-hand, giggling, cuddling and even showing public displays of affection. It's such a beautiful thing to have, but you can live without having this bond.