There’s a lot of stigma that goes around when it comes to relationships these days, about how they should progress, when to appropriately call your relationship “serious,” and when to make big decisions with the person you love. But that’s all a bunch of BS. Here are some of the things I’ve learned since I moved in with my boyfriend at 19-years-old.
I've been an extrovert for a long time. A really long time.
People say that men don't have feelings, that is wrong and total bullshit. They have feelings and they usually fall for a woman before the woman falls. They think they can shove the feelings aside, or they are too oblivious to them to even notice what the hell is going on before it's too late.
What do we look for in the "perfect partner"? What do we search for? What defines the perfect relationship? All questions that orbit around the dating game. A game none of us are really great at playing. I've beaten plenty of games but the dating game always seems to be the hardest. We're all searching for our player 2.
Dating tourist is not easy, so after hitting my head on the wall several times, I now master the art of detecting one. The worst is my actual paradoxical realization: dating a tourist is dreadful but they are the best! While dating a tourist sucks due to long distance, dating New Yorkers is nearly impossible!
Being in a non-monogamous relationship can be more challenging than one with just two people, especially at first as the dynamics are totally different. Although super exciting and a great experience, here are some tips for people who are new (or old!) to the world of non-monogamy.
We have all had at least one terrible relationship in our time. There's nothing wrong with that; it's a fact of life that not every relationship we have is going to be good. But what is wrong is staying in a bad relationship longer than you should because you either can't see that you are in a bad relationship or you don't know how to move on.
Dealing with relationships can be difficult but as humans, we all share the same desire for happiness. A confirmation of this desire for happiness should be an immediate indicator when it comes to knowing when a relationship is good or bad for you. Meaning, if you are dating someone who makes you unhappy, then you should likely not date them. Alternatively, if someone does make you happy, then that is a good omen for your relationship. However, humans are complicated creatures, and it's never that simple.The most important thing to keep in mind when evaluating your relationship is that you come first. You cannot realistically have a healthy relationship with someone if you are not putting your own self first. So what does that even mean? It means you need to regularly stop and think about how you feel and why you feel that way. Translate your feelings into thoughts and then deal with them accordingly. If you do not give yourself the time to process these emotions in a thorough manner you are simply bottling them, and when you bottle your emotions you are trapping yourself.
When the franchise first appeared, Fifty Shades of Grey turned into one of the biggest sensations the romance genre had ever seen. The turbulent relationship between Christian and Anastasia and often very, very steamy scenes helped bring BDSM to the mainstream and inspired couples all over the world to dive into new depths of previously unexplored pleasure. With Fifty Shades Darker coming out in theaters just a few days ago, now is the perfect time to recap all the lessons we learned from everyone’s favorite dysfunctionally functional couple.
The internet is a treasure trove of people seeking advice. I, myself, have spent the past several days googling what exactly to do with an insecure boyfriend. Like all things, one must consider the source. For example: who am I more likely to trust with the sudden changes in my romantic relationship? Cosmo or the Good Men Project? In this case, The Good Men Project. After all, I am dating (I think I still am, anyway), a red-blooded, redheaded man. Not an appletini with better hair products than myself.
I have been living with my other half for just over three years now, through all the ups and downs of job changes and moving flat and family drama and all the other things that come with both living together and a relationship.