The internet is a treasure trove of people seeking advice. I, myself, have spent the past several days googling what exactly to do with an insecure boyfriend. Like all things, one must consider the source. For example: who am I more likely to trust with the sudden changes in my romantic relationship? Cosmo or the Good Men Project? In this case, The Good Men Project. After all, I am dating (I think I still am, anyway), a red-blooded, redheaded man. Not an appletini with better hair products than myself.
I have been living with my other half for just over three years now, through all the ups and downs of job changes and moving flat and family drama and all the other things that come with both living together and a relationship.
I'm sure we all have our fair share of Valentine's Day horror stories. A lot of people do not celebrate Valentine's Day because of their past experiences. A lot of people don't even know the real reason for celebrating Valentine's Day. It is actually a Christian holiday based upon a Christian martyr by the name of St. Valentine. It's a celebration of romance and it used to be celebrated the entire month of February.
Dating is this weird experiment nearly all humans experience at some point in their lives in hopes of finding a compatible partner. Despite literally everyone having some form of dating experience, nearly half of all marriages end, which leads to the inevitable question: Why are so many incompatible people blinded by love? Unfortunately, attempting to understand the rationale of the human brain in love remains one of the most intriguing questions we may never know.
I've never been asked what I wanted to do for Valentine's Day. I do assume, though, that it's a stereotypical novelty for the events of Valentine's Day to be a bit of a surprise each year. We mind-read a lot on V-Day, and while the men of the world grace us women with roses and chocolates each year, we women continue to wonder what is an acceptable gift for the men in our lives. Now this is not to say that roses and chocolates are the only acceptable gifts to give a woman on February 14. The truth is that there is no male equivalent for women to default to. Can't do ties, those are for Father's Day. A shaving kit... should that be more of a necessity? Will he think I'm trying to send him a message? It's a never-ending struggle to find a gift for your man to show him how much you love him. So I went on a bit of an internet-fueled hunt to find out if there were really any solid answers to what men wanted for Valentine's Day. I eventually stumbled upon this Reddit thread that shared a lot of great tips from men themselves about what the perfect V-Day gift is to them. Naturally, as a woman, I curiously cruised through the entire list. (oops-kinda.)If you are still unsure what the wonderful man of your life would like to receive this V-Day, I have some good news: they probably don't want anything at all. To confirm, here are replies from ten men on Reddit about what they're hoping for this February 14:
Have you ever known someone or had a friend that was in a relationship that you knew just wasn’t going to work out? You could tell by the way your friend would tell you about their problems. But just how is it that we know when a relationship is meant to work out or not? What is it in us that could tell something so obvious but the two people involved are oblivious to it? Is it perspective perhaps? Most would say it is. But let me ask you this: Have you ever been in a relationship where everyone around you knew it wasn’t going to work but you were oblivious to it? It happens. There are some key red flags to look out for when in a relationship with someone. It’s difficult to know what to look out for because all relationships are unique but all relationships that don’t work out have some things in common.
Valentine's Day is just around the corner! One of the stereotypical things about Valentine's Day is that it is when boyfriends and husbands pull out all the stops and make the night special for their girlfriend or their wife. I've never been particularly fond of Valentines Day, but when I met Adam he always pulled out all the stops for Valentine's Day, and I've had a few good ones since.
It doesn't matter what age you may be at the moment. There is no such things too soon or too late for receiving the love you want. Many of us go around fantasizing about that perfect (to you) love, and it does exist. Try this:
I was recently in a relationship that was rather short lived. Why? Good question. The relationship started when I was talking to a guy on this dating site. I have met many decent people on it, but thus far had no luck getting dates. This was my first. As a woman I must admit I was a bit terrified. Add onto the relentless nerves of meeting someone for the first time and the dangers of meeting an online person in real life, there is also the fact that I have no car. That meant that if I could not get a ride there he would be coming to pick me up. That would mean he would know where I live.
I met Matt online when I was visiting family in Pennsylvania. I wasn't really sure what I was looking for, but he was funny and nice and super fun to talk to. I was 19 years old. We became instant friends and we continued to talk on and off after I went home, and even when we were seeing other people, because we weren't together, really. After a while, Matt got tired of it. He told me we couldn't just be friends—he wanted to be with me or we could have nothing. It hit me so hard. I realized how much I wanted to be with him. I had been so worried about the distance that I wasn't following my heart. Even though I live in Massachusetts and he lives in Pennsylvania, I took a chance, and now I know I met the man I want to spend my life with, even from eight hours away. It's difficult, but we make it work, and you can, too. There are ways to make long distance easier, and by utilizing resources available, it can make being far away a whole lot easier.
Being in a relationship is difficult. Two people have to be entirely committed to make a relationship last. The thing about relationships these days is that, through the course of them, our significant others may start to feel forgotten or insecure due to the demanding lives we live. Whether it is work, school, volunteering, or just keeping up with the children’s activities, we can forget to offer that token of love that can remind our significant others that we are still present in the relationship with small amounts of effort at a time. This will keep the relationship going, even though your ability to cultivate it is being hindered by life.