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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

  • Alexis Patmon
    Published 4 years ago
    Relationship Idolatry?

    Relationship Idolatry?

    Has love become your idol? Idolatry in relationships is very subtle. You don't know that you have that person up as a idol until everything they do affects your well-being and emotions to the point where it feels like bondage. You can't even follow your dreams because their opinion(s) matter more than your drive to follow after your passion. You're more focused on pleasing them and changing for them rather than focusing on you and growing within yourself. You'll never reach or really know what your purpose is in life if they're an idol (if you don't know what you've been placed on this Earth to do yet). That's why there are so many people that you hear about in relationships where you may think "Why is he/she in that relationship? ....and the person that they're with treats them with disrespect or doesn't value and treat them according to their worth?" They stay because they may feel staying with that person is more important than leaving and finding happiness. We attach ourselves to people due to our own insecurities and emotional hurts so we look to them to fill our voids instead of allowing the Creator to fill those voids for us.
  • Susan McCord
    Published 4 years ago
    Dating Advice: Ladies it's Time to Ask the Men Out!

    Dating Advice: Ladies it's Time to Ask the Men Out!

    In the video above Dear Sybersue talks about women needing to change things up with dating in the millennium. If it's not working well then maybe it's time for the ladies to ask the men out!
  • D. Gabrielle Jensen
    Published 4 years ago
    Endangered Species

    Endangered Species

    “Once I get home and take off my pants, that’s it. I’m not putting them back on until the morning. Sometimes I don’t even make it to my room before I take them off.”“If I agree to do something more than a day ahead of time, there is a 90% chance I will cancel.”“I don’t want to go outside. There are people there.”
  • Yannick Taylor
    Published 4 years ago
    Being Transgender Is...

    Being Transgender Is...

    Hi I'm Yannick and guess what? I'm transgender. That's right. I am a transgender woman. One thing about my transition is that, although I live as a woman, I have yet to have surgeries and I have yet to start hormone replacement therapy, also known as HRT.
  • Brooklyn M.
    Published 4 years ago
    The Art of Getting By

    The Art of Getting By

    I do not have a monopoly on suffering. But at seventeen, I've seen my fair share of it. However, this is no sob story, nor is it my entire story. Instead, this is just another chapter of my life---unfortunately, a rather mournful (but life-lesson ridden) chapter.
  • Winnie Rugamba
    Published 4 years ago
    Let It Be

    Let It Be

    "So why does it hurt when relationships end?" she asked. "Well do you mean romantic relationships or like any relationship?" I replied. "Yeah, any relationship." she says.
  • Hattie Haye
    Published 4 years ago
    An Open Letter to My Stalker: Thank You.

    An Open Letter to My Stalker: Thank You.

    At fifteen, a boy who I vaguely knew through a friend of a friend took something of a shining to me. This is no mean feat when you attend an all girls school, are entering your teenage years and desperately want a boyfriend. Not to mention the fact that I was a little frumpy and suffered from acne. Any attention from a boy two years my senior was, initially, well received.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 4 years ago
    Why It's Okay To Stay In The Closet For Now

    Why It's Okay To Stay In The Closet For Now

    More and more famous people are coming out these days, and this is a brilliant thing. Not only does it help to make people realize that being of a different sexuality is totally normal, it also inspires others and gives them the courage to come out.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 4 years ago
    Should I End My Relationship?

    Should I End My Relationship?

    Sometimes relationships can be saved, sometimes they can't. But knowing when to fight for your relationship and when to walk away can be difficult. You may have invested a lot of time and effort, but there are times when walking away is the best possible option for you.
  • D. Gabrielle Jensen
    Published 4 years ago
    Touching From a Distance

    Touching From a Distance

    According to Gary Chapman’s best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, each of us naturally shows affection in one (or two) of five main ways – quality time, physical touch, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service. Feeling fairly confident that I knew how it was going to turn out, I decided to take the 5 Love Languages quiz to find out what my personal love language is.
  • J.C. Marie
    Published 4 years ago
    Stop Telling Me I Can't Settle Down

    Stop Telling Me I Can't Settle Down

    I am the person who is in love and ready to settle down. I have people (gotta love polyamory baby) I love, who I want to marry. I know I love them, I know I want to be with them. So why do so many people think they can tell me not to settle down?
  • J.C. Marie
    Published 4 years ago
    Let's Talk Polyamory

    Let's Talk Polyamory

    In today's world, monogamous relationships are the norm. In fact, most people don't think that there is an option besides monogamy. After all, if you aren't Mormon, then you aren't going to be in a place to date multiple people, right? Not necessarily. As a young woman in a polyamorous relationship, I am here to tell you that there is much more to polyamory that the traditional media representation.