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  • Claire Raymond
    Published 4 years ago
    7 Things You Should Do After A Break-up

    7 Things You Should Do After A Break-up

    Break ups can be the worst thing ever at times, but sometimes they are a blessing in disguise, you may not see it at the time, but breaking up with someone could potentially be the best thing that ever happens to you. But no matter what your feelings may be, there are seven things you should always do after a break up.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 4 years ago
    7 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup

    7 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup

    We have all wanted to do some pretty drastic things after a breakup, and it's only human to want to lash out when you feel wronged or want someone to take you back if you didn't want the relationship to end. But there are things that, for the sake of dignity, you shouldn't ever do after breaking up with someone. Don't, under any circumstances:
  • Lucy Frampton
    Published 4 years ago
    Can You Survive a Long Distance Relationship?

    Can You Survive a Long Distance Relationship?

    Love is hard. False, love is actually very easy. If you think about it, we all have someone in our life that we love. For example, it could be your mother, father, grandparents, aunt or uncle, friends etc, and we don't stop to think about how much we love them, we just do because it's un-conditional. We're brought into the world by our parents and in most cases we learn love from them without any conditions, because they are there for us and they surround us with safety and comfort.
  • Vanisha May
    Published 4 years ago
    Physically Turned On, Emotionally Switched Off.

    Physically Turned On, Emotionally Switched Off.

    So my first blog is going to be about the issues and questions in the book that I’ve just finished reading, and as a sociologist and more importantly, as a single gal in the 21st century, I have found that the book has left me with more questions and slightly less hope for our generation when it comes to sex, love and modern day dating… poopy.
  • Susan McCord
    Published 4 years ago
    Dating Advice: Are You Too Judgmental or Too Picky?

    Dating Advice: Are You Too Judgmental or Too Picky?

    How would you describe yourself in 3 sentences? Do you think people know the “real you?” With less “face to face” contact due to online dating & social media outlets, people are spending more time behind a computer and becoming even more judgmental than ever before.
  • Kim Hastings
    Published 4 years ago
    Now That I Am Older Than Dirt

    Now That I Am Older Than Dirt

    I was young just a couple of days ago. I'm sure of it. I know because I put on my boss medallion and went to a Ban the Bomb protest. I burned my draft card! It was right there under my AARP card.
  • Sarava Watson
    Published 4 years ago
    What I Learned From Dyeing My Hair Blue

    What I Learned From Dyeing My Hair Blue

    In July of 2016, I went from brunette to having blue, green, and purple “mermaid hair.” I’d wanted to dye it for a while, but had never followed through on it before. Before I did it, many of the adults around me (that weren’t my friends) kept telling me how much I’d regret it and how drastically it would negatively impact my life. I was told that I’d never get respect, that it’d ruin my hair, that I’d miss my old color too much, that it’s only something delinquent teenagers do, and even that having dyed hair would make me want to “fit in to that crowd,” somehow causing me to do things like drugs and other illegal activities. They were all certain that simply changing my hair color would somehow change who I was.
  • Skunk Uzeki
    Published 4 years ago
    Qualities an Alpha Female Should Look for In a Partner

    Qualities an Alpha Female Should Look for In a Partner

    I've been a dating advice columnist for years, and I've seen a lot of trends involving calling both men and women "Alpha." Truthfully, I'm not a fan of the labels of "Alpha" and "Beta" when it comes to dating advice. It's one of those things that tends to have a lot of connotations that just aren't healthy or good.
  • Claire Raymond
    Published 4 years ago
    Online Dating Safety Tips

    Online Dating Safety Tips

    With 1 in 5 relationships now beginning online, it makes good sense to sign up to a dating site. But with 71% of online users lying about their age, height and figure, you not only need to be honest, but more importantly, you need to be safe. I don't believe you should think that everyone on dating websites is a con artist or a murderer, but you do need to make sure you take proper safety precautions on every single date you go on, no matter how comfortable you might feel with that person. The main concerns of online dating are financial fraud and physical safety, so you need to be vigilant from the start. Don't send money to anyone you haven't met, you might think that sounds silly as why would anyone do that? But more people do it than you realize, last year in the UK, people on dating websites were conned out of around £39 million. Never reveal any personal information about yourself such as your address or your bank details. And don't post any intimate pictures to them, they may be in fun, but they could potentially be used to blackmail you. Sob stories that end in requests for money are all too common, just ignore them, none of it is true. Don't feel pressured into meeting anyone before you are ready, if someone is pressuring you a lot then you should ask yourself why. If they are making you uncomfortable, report them to the website. Never meet anyone at your home or theirs for a first date, meet in a well lit public place and if you think something feels off before you get there, leave immediately. The same applies if you are worried about your date's behavior, if they are scaring you then make your excuses and get out. Keep an eye on your drink at all times, never leave it unattended, if you need to go to the bathroom then finish it first and order a new one when you get back. If your date has already ordered you one, don't drink it, think up an excuse such as "I'm driving" or "I have to be up early tomorrow so I better not drink too much" Never go to someone's house if you don't want to, nobody should want you to if you are not comfortable, if they are trying to make you then leave as quickly as you can. You should always make your own way home after a first date too, don't let them drive you. Always let someone know where you are going, when you get there and what the name of the person is, show them a picture if possible. Let them know if the date is going well or badly (excuse yourself and go to the bathroom) and tell them as soon as you get home. If someone is coming to your home, keep all personal information such as bank statements out of sight. Conning isn't an instant thing, they could be working you to get to your info, so keep it in a safe place only you know about. It all sounds a bit intimidating and like everyone is out to hustle or assault you, and not everyone is, but some people are. And those people ruin it for the rest of the online daters out there wanting to make a connection with one. Don't go into online dating suspecting everyone, just be aware that things like this happen and you need to protect yourself from them, sometimes it is better to be a little suspicious at the start, than to be the victim of a crime.
  • Susan McCord
    Published 4 years ago
    Dating & Relationships: Are You Getting MIXED SIGNALS?

    Dating & Relationships: Are You Getting MIXED SIGNALS?

    It seems that men and women cannot get past the first 3 dates due to the mixed signals they are receiving. What is going on & why has this changed so much over the years?
  • LJ Chaplin
    Published 4 years ago
    Me, My Lover & Anxiety

    Me, My Lover & Anxiety

    It is an odd feeling to be in love and feel like the luckiest man on Earth, only for it to be closely watched by the hungry eyes of your own anxiety. It is there constantly, poking and prodding at your brain and wanting you to think that every move your partner makes indicates your world is going to fall spectacularly apart.
  • Mackenzie Z. Kennedy
    Published 4 years ago
    How To Buy a Girl a Drink (Without Making It Awkward)

    How To Buy a Girl a Drink (Without Making It Awkward)

    If there's one classic move that guys do at bars, it's buying a girl they're interested a drink as a way to break the ice. It used to be a good way to show that you're a gentleman, and that you want to get to know the woman in question better.