Single living

I'm getting older, and I can remember growing up and people questioning why I wasn't dating. To be honest at the age I'm at now I'm sure that some wonder why I have not had any children.

Truth, is I have made some life altering decisions when it has come to dating. We have to be careful connecting to people that we truly aren't supposed to be connected to.

You can get caught up in what other people feel or think you should do verses standing on your own thoughts. In life many times we are looking for the Romeo and Julliet scenarios, I believe we forget that there is death at the end.

Let's be honest, many times we watch too much television and listen to the wrong people and become statics. Why rush the process of marriage? How often have you seen some choose Mr. or Miss. right now and end up in a place of remorse? Why not value your single life and learn how to prepare to be a wife or husband? Would you rather be married at 25 years of age and divorced three years later? We each have a specific timing to be married unless we simply want to remain by ourselves. I have met some that simply want to spend the rest of their lives alone. But to be honest most of those people have been divorced, experienced a traumatic event in his/her life.

Let me ask this question? Have you given up on love... not lust? I know we can find lust anywhere. But have you given up on true unconditional love? The kind of love that never ends, it may get upset but it never ends. If you are single and truly desire to be married to the right person and not the "right now" person here are a few things, you can work on while you wait.

So, what are some things you can do now to prepare?

Get out the house sometimes- I'm not saying go to the club to drink or party. You can go hiking. Go to the movies. Go skating. Take a walk on the beach, etc.

Learn a new skill-If you don't know how to cook this is a great opportunity. Maybe you have always wanted to learn how to sew. Let's be honest, it doesn't have to be a skill that you are personally desiring to learn but you may need in the future. Why not invest now rather than later?

Use this time to learn who you are. If you have always been in a relationship or codependent, do you really know what it means to be single and happy. There is a chance when you do get married that he/she may not like the same times that you enjoy.

Use this time to be truly healed from past relationships that did not even on a great note.

Work on proper communications- you know how you leave people on read for days. Are you a screamer? Do you shut down when things do not go your way?

Empower others daily. Many times, as singles we set and wait for us to empower and encourage us. Why not be the one that is encouraging others.

Take care of your physical health

Learn to encourage yourself and pursue your dreams.

Know your worth as an individual.

Take care of your mental health.

Many times, we are taught when we finally meet the one and not the one for right now that he or she will change our lives and heal us from hurts. I'm sure some still thinks that he or she will be on a white horse and will love every single thing that you do. Let's appreciate the time we have now so when the time does come, we are living life to a greater level. Being single isn't bad, it's just a greater opportunity to prepare for the best life we are meant to.