Single Is a Choice, Not a Curse

We live in a society where unmarried people are treated like a "sore thumb." Unmarried people are always pressured to find a mate or else there isn't anything else to live for. Well let " Nessa" ( my nick name) free you up on that.

If you don't know who you are you are bound to believe whatever someone defines about your life. I would like for my readers to discover why alone or unmarried does not mean forsaken.

You were born all by yourself. In other words nobody else was in your mommy's tummy but you, unless you had a twin. Therefore, you were already shaped, conditioned and trained on how to live alone before you entered the outside world.

Its time to enjoy life and disregard this misconception that unmarried people are merely driffting in life until someone comes along to make them whole. Think about it? For example, how many married couples complain they still feel alone? Why? Because another person was not designed to make you whole in the first place. If a person goes into a relationship already whole then if their significant other decides to clock out, then you are bound to rebound because your significant other didn't complete you anyway.

Its really sad when people feel their lives end because someone walks out, yes it can hurt but when you know that you know that you know you were already whole before them, then you began to realize you really don't need to be online trying to hook up with someone because your lonely or your biological clock is ticking.

I would like to encourage you to create what I call your, " Happy mates Community" instead of focusing on having that one mate in your life.

We miss out so much on life because we are not exploring our community around us and making genuine friendships. It's healthy to try to build your life with people who have your intrests and experiences. You can start a support group and create activites you all can enjoy together.

These are special ways to build you and fortify your wholeness within. Its your road map to a happy life, succesful life and to your wholeness.

So many people live way into their 30's, 40's and 50's trying to search for the love of their life when you are the true love of your life. However, if you should meet someone on your journey of wholeness, then the other person must be whole also. Remember, Two whole people make one whole relationship.

Try loving yourself and realize your not single until you become whole. Single means being whole not a marital status. Your one step away from loving you. When you do you will realize, Single Is a Choice, Not a Curse.