Signs That You Are Not Suitable for Each Other

Signs that you are not right - have you ever wondered if you are in a relationship that is right and right for you? Have you ever wondered "is it normal to be like this"? Have you often felt that the relationship and your partner make you feel bad rather than good, rather unappreciated than loved? Did you think, even as a fleeting thought, that it might be better for you to finish it - but you ran away from that thought, being too afraid to think better?

The truth is that most of us easily notice when two partners are not suitable and when their relationship is not good - but when it comes to ourselves and our partner, we seem to suddenly go blind and can not look reality in the face…

Even if you feel that something is wrong that it is really bad, you can fool yourself, remembering what it was like in the past or saying "that's the way it is in any relationship, no one is always happy". Maybe no one is always happy - but when the relationship doesn't make you happy at all, it's time to open your eyes and ignore the signs that you are not suitable! It happens that you think you love for a while and you are blind to the clues - but it can't last indefinitely (or it shouldn't last)!

Signs that you are not suitable:

You have different perspectives and goals in life. A relationship in which the partners look at the future completely differently and want completely different things from life will only hurt them (or hurt one of them). What different goals and perspectives are about: whether you both want a stable relationship; if you both want a family; if your dreams of the future can be fulfilled (it is not necessary to be the same, but they must be able to form a whole, to be able to combine - if the dream of one excludes the dream of the other, you have a problem).

You may think that it will change, that everything will be resolved, or that you can give up your goals and dreams - but is it possible? Will you be happy giving up what you wanted so much?

Your partner has a passion that you can't stand - or vice versa. You don't have to have the same passion, the same hobby. But it is important to accept your partner with all his passion (if you are thinking of changing him/her, you already have a big problem). If the other person's passion makes you jump, irritates you, makes you hate the moments when he does what he likes, then maybe you are not suitable!

One more thing: it's important to have something in common: some interest, even if it's watching movies or playing cards! Without a small common ground (which may exist from the beginning or can be found), you can't be a partner.

You have more of a separate life. Stay together in the evenings when you schedule it; otherwise, each with his family and each with his friends. You rarely go out with mutual friends, each usually seeing his own life. And this happens after a significant period of relationship…

This is a sign that you are not fit - if you can not build a common life, do not adapt your own lives to married life, each keeping a large part of life for themselves.

You often argue, ugly, out of nowhere. If you quarrel badly for no good reason and make a scandal out of everything, then you should ask yourself what is wrong with the relationship.

Moreover, if you usually fight badly and offend yourself, humiliate yourself, want to hurt each other - then something is "rotten". Wanting to hurt and humiliate the other person means that you are enemies, it is a sign that you are not happy and that you want to take revenge on him/her somehow.

You don't fit in the bed. Sure, it's not the bedroom aspects that are most important in the couple's relationship - but they are quite important; and if you are extremely incompatible, having different desires and preferences, if you can rarely say that you are satisfied, then this mismatch will seriously affect the relationship if you do not find a middle ground.

You look around with interest… What it means is that you look admiringly at a sexy person. But you look around with interest and when you see someone, you start imagining "what if". You look not only at the physical interest but also the interest of the emotionally hungry person.

You try and dream to change your partner. Another sign that you are not suitable is when you want to change your partner because you do not like how it is - ignoring the evidence that if you love, you accept the flaws and things that do not suit you, without trying to change.

Of course, everyone still thinks "I wish I was better", "how nice if it were more", "it annoys me when it works". But if you make plans to change him/her in a way that is important enough to suit your needs, it means that he/she does not fit - and you need to know that you cannot change an individual.

You do not respect and appreciate yourself. Think of it this way: If you weren't in love, would you like a partner? Would you appreciate and respect him as a person? Or would you despise it, endure it, and ignore it? Because living with a person you don't appreciate and respect means making her unhappy and making you unhappy!