Shooting your "Shot"

So what exactly is the problem? Can we bridge the gap before the gap is too wide to connect? Are men interested in taken women out anymore? Are women concerned about going on dinner dates these days, or buried in the depts of their independence? Is there a lost art in men shooting their "shot"? What happened to the moment after eye contact from across the room and the guy walking over to say hello?

Can we truly find out why men are becoming less interested in walking over and saying hello, or sending a "DM" to a woman's profile and risking it all? Well, maybe not all, but there is some embarrassment to the male ego that comes along with the rejection, or no response at all. Most men don't put in the effort because the thrill of the chase is almost over. Today's women could care less about a compliment, let alone a dinner invitation.

Yes, that's right ladies! The state of Feminism has killed the vigor and the aim in the "shot", or we can say lessen the blow. Why? Men are natural predators and we seek to find what we can obtain. As simple as we are, we still like a challenge and bragging rights saying that we charmed a certain woman with our social skills.

I once had a conversation with a Judge and we discussed what happened to our society. He explained the "tipping" point as to when he first noticed when we were taking a turn for the bad. I agreed with most of his statement and quickly understood his point. He stated that when women wanted to be equal, that was the beginning of the end for gender roles. No, I am not a caveman stuck in the 50s and I don't think the judge was making that his point. I clearly think that he was stating that when women wanted to feel equal, that was the slippery slope we put ourselves on and today we have a vast majority of modern women who could care less if a man ask them out on a date. Some women wanted to play the "male" role, hence the despicable act of some women getting down on their knees and asking for a man's hand in marriage.

So as I nod my head and listening to the judge, he made sense and his description of a changing time from woman's equal rights in the labor force, to what we see today is one of the reasons why men are less interested in shooting their "shot". Now again, I am all for the advancement of both women and men and I understand the point he was making.

Yes there are men that still shoot their "shot" and give it their all to try and connect with women and the signs today are completely on another level. However, I still keep the understanding that a true woman will always welcome a man who will approach her with class and style. Unfortunately, we have a slew of modern day women who throwing mixed up data in the dating pool and making things difficult of course.

My message to men, keep trying! The numbers will always be in the favor of the men with quantity and age as well. That statement needs no explanation, but some of these modern women who claim they can do without a man, stop going out and wasting time. On the other hand, if you are a woman and see a note in your DM, or a man sending you over a drink over; enjoy the time and let him shoot his "shot"!