Secret tools to manipulate others
Unveiling the Dark Art of Psychological Influence.
The secret tools to manipulate others
Understanding goals provides the necessary information for effectively
manipulating others. Tools, on the other hand, are the raw materials you
have at your disposal for affecting those goals, or the actions taken by
others to achieve them.
Power
In the last section, Goals, you read some examples relating to the
workplace, specifically regarding situations in which you might be able to
help someone else achieve their goals. This translates to power.
Power is the ability to help other people succeed.
This is an interesting definition because it appears to subvert the normal
idea of power as an ability to exert force over others. However, breaking it
down, the two are closely related. Having the ability to exert force over
others can mean not harming them, not invading their country, not throwing
them in jail, not creating laws which negatively impact them; these are all
forms of power – the power to help other people succeed is much the same
as the power to make other people fail, left unexercised.
These are just positive and negative perspectives of the same thing. The
difference is often negligible.
What can you provide people that will help other people achieve their
goals? The most obvious thing is extraordinary abilities. Talent is valuable
in every aspect of life, from sports competitions, to business, to raising
children. If you have talents that other people can use, that’s a powerful
thing.
Another form of power is authority. The boss gets to decide who is
promoted and who is fired. A police officer can arrest you or let you off
with a warning, thanks to their legally sanctioned authority. A judge may
decide your sentence, based on certain constraints, and their opinion of your
nature.
However, there’s a problem: you might have the same, or greater, talents as
another person. And yet, they may be more successful than you, held in
higher regard and enjoy greater benefits.
The other aspect to power is reputation. This relates to the belief, held by
others, in your power. It’s reputation that is often key to manipulation. The
judgment of others regarding your ability, and your authority
Persuasion
One previously mentioned tool is persuasion. Having examined persuasion
in relation to manipulation, and established it as a tool within the umbrella
of manipulation, it is now worth making a comprehensive definition of
persuasion and examining its use.
Persuasion is the effort to convince another person to change their
actions.
The problem with persuasion alone is that, so often, it is obvious to the
person that you have an incentive to convince them. They believe that you
stand to gain from the persuasion, which is unhelpful when trying to
manipulate a friendly or neutral party, and devastating when trying to
manipulate a rival.
Persuasion is most useful when you can reveal new information to change
the perception of others. If someone is likely to change their course based
on new information or new understandings of information, which you can
provide, persuasion then has a chance of success. This means providing
information which will affect either the goals of another party, or the
actions they will take to achieve them.
The only other scenario is when another party believes that your goals
somehow have a positive relationship with their own. In this case, they may
trust your judgment, and your intentions, and take up your cause.
This is great when you genuinely have new information, or the trust of
another party. But on many occasions, you won’t. On those occasions,
persuasion is only going to be effective when combined with other tools,
such as deception. That means attempting to persuade someone based on a
lie or partial truth. Once again, you are revealing new information or
leading someone to believe your goals align with theirs, but in truth you are
fabricating or hiding elements.
Deception
This is the third tool for manipulation. It forms the core of so many
approaches to manipulation and interacts with both power and persuasion
significantly.
Deception is the control of information.
Start thinking objectively and it becomes possible to imagine people as
machines. The machines are designed to achieve goals, and will do so by
reacting to inputs (information) and creating outputs (actions). If you
control the inputs, by controlling that information, you can deceive. With
that deception, you can change the outputs, resulting in different actions.
The reason deception takes a central role in manipulation is that it is
important for parties you manipulate to believe their actions are furthering
their own interests. Otherwise, they have no reason to take those actions.
The objective of deception is to control information in such a way that the
information they receive leads them to actions which further your interests.
Naturally, the main danger, with deception, is being discovered. For this
reason, deception is often best avoided where possible and, when used, to
be carefully controlled. An ideal deception would have minimal risk and
maximum reward, with plausible deniability if found out. There is also the
risk that lies can lead to further lies, in order to cover up the original
deception; in this case, the risk swells while the reward remains the same
and what might have seemed like a good idea at first can become a terrible
decision.
Irrational Behavior
So far, in the fundamentals of manipulation, there has been an assumption
based on the idea that parties act rationally. This is, broadly, a good
assumption. What may seem like irrational behavior, to some people, is
often a case of someone having unexpected goals.
It is of little interest, to your manipulation efforts, to assess the rationality of
anyone’s goals. While the volatility (liability to change) of those goals is of
interest, the rationality of them is not. The important thing is to determine a
person’s goals via their actions and use those goals to predict, and
manipulate, their future actions.
For example, a co-worker may seemingly be slacking off at work. They
might not be doing any of the things required to achieve a promotion or
make a good impression on your boss. Is their behavior irrational? It may
seem so, but only if you assume their main goal is to advance their career.
In actual fact, they may be looking for an easy ride, or focused on pursuing
a love interest in the office. They might be more interested in their life
outside of work and simply choose to earn some respite during work hours,
so they can party it up all night again. In that sense, their actions are not
irrational – they are simply geared towards achieving another goal. Is that
goal rational? It hardly matters.
Irrational behavior is a cognitive failure to perform actions which help
achieve one’s goals.
The person in the previous example might have a stated goal to become
head of sales in the next two years. However, that doesn’t mean their real
goals align. If someone is not consciously acting to achieve their goals, they
can no longer be called their goals. Therefore the behavior is still not
irrational.
Irrational behavior is more like a tick of the mind. It is a mistake, based on
either a failure of human instinct or a lack of understanding. This is distinct
from a lack of information, whereby a person can still make a mistake,
however it is rational behavior based on the knowledge available to them.
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