People who live well

Tsinghua professor Ning Xiangdong once lamented that "the whole society has fallen into a "busy disease."

Indeed, in today's increasingly competitive society, many people because of the fear of being eliminated, fear of idle will be wasted, so life is full of arrangements, always non-stop forward, but forgot to stop to rest.

When exhausted, tired,d unable to breathe, only to find that the most difficult life is actually to stop.

And those who live well have the remarkable ability to dare to press the pause button.

They know how to give themselves a value-added period, and know that a relaxed rhythm is the only way to stop, to live a more comfortable and rich.

Too anxious, often bad things

A quote I saw online earlier.

"Life is like a marathon, if you use the speed of running 100 meters to sprint, it is destined to run not far."

This reminds me of two familiar fables.

The first one is about a man in the state of Song who worried that his saplings were not growing taller, so he pulled them up and lamented that he was very clever, and they all withered.

The second is the tortoise and the hare race, the hare at first ran very fast, but soon tired of running and lay down to rest.

Although the tortoise crawled very slowly, at an even pace, it was thought that the tortoise lost, but when the hare woke up, the tortoise climbed to the end and won the race.

The first story illustrates that the seasons need to be reincarnated regularly to facilitate the growth of all things and that the process of sowing seeds to blossom and bear fruit needs to be too hasty, but will be bad.

The second one tells us that in a good life, there is no need to be in a hurry.

Sometimes, we will question, we work very hard, and why the results will be contrary to the way it is.

Because the force is too strong, the result is that the heart can not eat hot tofu.

When I was working in the previous unit, I thought that I should pursue advancement while I was young, so I not only enrolled in on-the-job education upgrading but also enrolled in other certificates.

The workload and pressure at work were so great that there was almost no way to get off work at the right time, and the work and rest were often reversed.

However, to pursue efficient work and study, I was afraid of not passing the exam after spending money, so I spent all my free time studying, and I didn't dare to relax.

As a result, of too much effort, self-doubt, physical and mental suffering and destruction, the quality of life has become more and more inefficient, and almost can not bear the pressure and collapse.

Unexpectedly, there was a small cold to take the medicine, drowsy sleep, completely "lazy" day.

This rare relaxation, but became a kind of leisure, the next day work and study become more efficient.

Suddenly I realized that being morbidly busy is worse than having nothing to do.

There is a saying: "Work hard, but don't rush."

Indeed, in a good life, there is no need to rush.

Working too hard and blindly pursuing speed will not only add pressure and burden to yourself and make you lose your way, but you will also miss the beautiful scenery along the way and miss out on many of life's little blessings because you always have your head in the clouds.

So, don't be too greedy to get it all, and then put everything on top of it, learn to decompress yourself.

A proper pause can not only prevent things from getting worse, but also clear your mind and adjust your direction, and then better achieve your goals.

Stopping in moderation is a step-by-step wisdom

There was an American climber who dreamed of climbing a virgin peak in the South American Andes alone.

So, he first scouted the climbing route, then made a thorough plan and time.

On the day of departure, he started climbing with his equipment, and the first two-thirds of the climb to the virgin peak went well, but he did not rush up.

Instead, he stopped and observed the terrain of the climbing route while thinking about why many top climbers had perished there.

It turns out that the "ice crust" of Virgin Peak seems to be very loose, and when there are high winds or strong convection, it is easy to encounter avalanches, so it is easy to get into trouble.

So, he adjusted his plan to start again, the process faced with falling rocks, high winds, and other unfavorable factors, advancing a meter to stop and rest. When looking at the top of the mountain, physical strength has been exhausted, after thinking, again and again, he decided to give up the climb.

After returning, he began to strengthen his physical fitness and endurance training to meet the physical fitness needed to conquer the virgin peak. He tried five more times after that, and each time he encountered a new challenge, he knew how to stop and re-plan, and finally on the seventh challenge he succeeded in reaching the summit.

Many people praised him for his perseverance, but he said.

"Success is lucky, but this luck is the result of countless 'stops'! Do not move forward blindly, people who choose to keep moving forward are not necessarily wise, especially in front of nature, people have to learn to 'stop'."

Indeed, stopping in moderation and not blindly pursuing speed is a kind of gradual wisdom.

Philosopher Thoreau, when people keep pursuing materialistic desires, he pressed pause on his life and chose to live away from the group for two years on the shores of Walden Lake.

As a result, he was able to gain a lot of leisure for reading, writing and focusing on his heart, appreciating nature, and giving life a whole new perception, which led to the release of Walden Lake.

When herdsmen graze their livestock, they will do "rotational grazing" according to the seasons, to give the pasture time to "recuperate" and accumulate nutrients for growth, to match the growth needs of livestock and obtain higher grazing income.

There is a saying in the I Ching that a wise man knows how to "move forward", but a wise man knows how to "stop".

The effort is a kind of state, and knowing how to stop is a kind of ability, is also a kind of step-by-step wisdom.

Properly slow down the pace of life to give life just the right amount of white space, to be able to provide physical and mental recuperation to restore energy, persist in going farther, and make life more exciting.

People with real self-discipline know how to "press the pause button"

There is a short story.

A group of people rushing forward together, and suddenly a person stopped, the next person asked him why he did not continue to go.

The man explained, "Although the body is walking fast, the soul is behind, so I have to wait for it so that the soul can keep up with the pace of progress."

The wisest thing in life is not to keep moving forward moment by moment, but to know how to pause in time.

In life, many people always desire a lot, do not know how to give up everything want to get, but forget that everything has a limit, and needs to balance.

Just like our stomach capacity, you do not control the desperate eating, the result will only accumulate food to make you uncomfortable, only to stop in time to digest, to enjoy more delicious food.

Friedman in the book "Thank you for being late" wrote this.

"The matter of pausing has a different effect on machines and people; when you press the pause button on a machine, it stops running, but when a person gives himself a pause, he starts again."

Yuan Quan won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Supporting Actress when she first appeared in the film Springtime Rhapsody, and the roles she played later received good word-of-mouth.

Her career was at its peak, and she could have done better if she had seized the opportunity, but she pressed the "pause button" on herself at that moment.

She chose to take a break from acting and retired to a drama club to study drama and sharpen herself.

Many people said she was silly, but she said, "Only in the drama stage can I calm myself down. Only then can I leave more time for me and do what I like."

After this period of sedimentation, she is comfortable on the stage of the drama, creating a new world and improving her acting skills.

Her role as Yun Zhifan in "Secretly in Love with Peach Blossom Source" led Lin Qingxia, who also played the role, to comment, "After Yuan Quan, there is no more Yun Zhifan!"

When other actresses are afraid of age crisis, she was inducted into the "Chinese Drama Hall of Fame" at the age of 30, alongside famous stars such as Lao She and Lai Shengchuan.

When other stars are 40 years old and have no choice but to stop acting, she returns at the age of 40 and conquers the audience with her superb acting skills.

The words that Dong Qing once said.

"A smart person not only knows, when he should go on, but also knows when he can leave, and the time to leave determines whether you look at every one's back, or everyone looks at your back."

Pause is not to give up, but to build up momentum and wait for the right time to bloom more brilliantly again.

Dare to press the pause button for life, and know the trade-offs to live, is very advanced self-discipline.

Human energy is like a bottle of water, and life is like a desert, you walk in it, you need to rely on this bottle of water to go out alive, if you are very anxious to drink it all at once, then you can only stay in the desert for life.

Therefore, a good life does not have to be too hasty, take your time, press the pause button at the right time, and let your body and mind recuperate before hitting the road, life is more qualitative, and life can live the way you want.

Writer Su Baiken said, "A person who layout will never stuff his life too full."

The human heart can never be satisfied, the desire can never be filled, no one can run forever, and one day the energy will be exhausted and depleted.

Really smart people, know how to stop, rest and recharge their energy, may not be able to run as fast as the hair, but can be like the tortoise, even speed can run farther and finally achieve the goal