People Are Constantly Involved in Your Life Because They Don’t Have Their Own Life

Some people are constantly involved in someone else's life: they comment on everything that happens to you, they immediately evaluate themselves, they analyze the decisions made, they give in to all doubts and criticisms. They are not at all stopped by the fact that no one has asked their opinion or advice.

In addition, at best, what they have to say is simply annoying. Unfortunately, their "contribution" often undermines your self-esteem and levels out your victories and achievements.

Even though we all know about the existence of such people (often - and in the immediate environment, among friends and colleagues), their negative influence is not so easy to avoid. All the more so as their criticism and teachings are constant.

Usually, people who get involved in other people's lives "without being asked and without knocking on the door" are the ones who have their deep emotional conflict. They have huge problems with self-esteem, a lot of problems with their different character, and, at the same time, categorical denial of their existence.

What to do with such people who tell you how to live? Sometimes it is enough to point out to them lightly and elegantly that it would be good to deal with their life first, where the problems are above the roof, and then pretend to be an "expert". But often such tactics do not work and you have to distance yourself to save your nerves and emotional health.

Maybe at some point, other people's opinions raised doubts. Have you ever wondered, "What if everything is as they say it is?" well, it's unpleasant (other than that, it's not true), but you can only wrap everything up for good.

You can use these doubts to re-establish yourself. Remember that other people may know very little about you - at best, as they call you. But your story, all that you had to endure and all that you had to fight every day, is nothing. They haven't lived in your skin for a day or in your shoes for a day.

In some cases, you don't know each other until the end. Not to mention how they can get to know you and understand you well enough. Therefore, they accept the words spoken only as the imaginary reality created by their brain.

Pass judgment on others through your filters.

Only you can give life to the words and actions of others. Therefore, it is very important to filter the information: to separate what can be useful and constructive from everything destructive and useless.

Going through the filters of truth, goodness, and necessity, he is left with only what deserves attention and brings happiness, not suffering. This means that no matter what others say, you feel great and confident in yourself.

Surround yourself with people who help you, not those who cause you pain

Surround yourself with people who bring something positive into your life and don't take you away and steal your joy. Don't let anyone destroy you with "useful" criticism, offensive comments, and judgments that are completely useless and won't help you. Don't let the words of other people trying to cut your wings and break your dreams go through your heart.

Surround yourself with honest people. Only they can understand how you feel, what you are going through, and how you can be supported. These are people you can count on. These are people who do not distort reality to hurt you, they have no hidden intentions. Their thoughts are pure, so the words spoken deserve attention and can help.

Ignore the irony and evil sarcasm. Try to create a place in your world where you will be protected from the emotional blackmail, toxicity, and negativity of others. How? Surrounding yourself with sincere and kind people!

Remember that the most unhappy are those who are too worried about what others think of them. Get rid of all sorts of imaginary "counselors" and "experts"!