No 2nd Date

Inviting a woman out for dinner has never been a problem in my life. In fact, I could probably have a date with a different woman for two weeks at least! There has never been a dating market with a woman turning down a meal.

Yes, I said it! There is a surplus of free meals, but that is minor problem compared to the problems I’m about to mention when dating women in a modern city. The women often complain about why men don’t extend the offer to wine and dine, so here are a few reasons why!

Attention Monsters- once a man finds out that your main goal as a woman is to seek attention over affection, your time with him is limited. Dead giveaway is a woman taking a picture of her meal while on a date and posting it! I once had a woman tell me that I could have her IG page! This is a big red tarp and no man wants anything to do with a women wanting clicks and followers over personal time with someone. Which leads me to say, women, please stop asking us men to vote for you at 40 and fabulous! Whatever they call it, this is an immediate turn off! Show that you as a woman take pride in having an interest or a desire in a man for who he is!

No one cares about your table! Yes, this is a world based on equality, but women still look for men to lead and provide! This one cause is the most popular reason as to why men don’t ask women out on 2nd dates! If you as a woman don’t plan to contribute financially to a man’s future legacy, then why lead with elements that aren’t helpful to his future? I don’t care what some of these fake men tell you. We don’t want to hear about your finances. Especially on the first date! In fact, leave your career off the conversation table during dinner discussions.

Reciprocity is key in everything we do in life! Show the desire to call the man (after he expressed his interest)! Of course I’m talking about a man who has put in the time and invested in a nice thoughtful date and spent his efforts in you, return the favor! Now I cannot tell any woman how to be a woman. I can tell you what men look for and the reciprocated energy is a turn on to men! However, why do women find it hard to initiate a phone call when they know a man likes them? Listening to these dating gurus are going to have you going to Friendstine dinner for the rest of your life, when you could have someone planning Valentines dinner for you!

There are several reasons I could point out that are 2nd date killers and these are easy fixes. I cannot give advice on personality. If you are a $#!++¥ person, then that will surface in due time. Child, go heal yourself! The number one killer of 2nd date opportunities in the “date them all” mindset! Yes, have fun as much as you want! However, if you as a woman have any desire to settle with a man, practice monogamy as soon as possible. No man wants a woman that everyone has easy access to. This is a turn off to men, but women gravitate to men that appears to meet the social standard. A man can look at a woman’s life and when he realizes that she can easily bounce from man to man, he will say, “she for them streets” second date opportunity, gone!

No two men are the same, but we look for the same general qualities in a woman. Yes we want someone soft to come home to after facing a hard world. You hear different, you heard wrong! We want women that no other men have access to! Try to exercise working on these things and the 2nd dates (with the same man) will come more often!