Never expect

There's a classic quote from "The Lost Frame of Humanity": "If you can avoid violent ecstasy, naturally there will be no grief.

The reality is also the same, the higher the expectations, the deeper the disappointment.

The more you see what is right and wrong, and experience the warmth of human feelings, the more you know that the best way to eliminate pain is to lower expectations.

Do not expect others to understand you, and do not expect others to feel the same way.

There is a highly praised question on Zhukov: "In which moment did you have an emotional outburst?

An anonymous respondent's experience has hit a tear in many people's eyes.

On the eve of Mother's Day, the girl went to work as usual.

Different from the usual, early that morning, a female colleague of the department repeatedly came to the girl, saying that she wanted the girl to buy flowers with her group

The girl refused no less than five times and finally was forced to tell her colleague that her mother was not in.

The girl's mother was absent last year, from the diagnosis to leave less than three months, when she took a long leave to go back to take care of her mother, the unit of people know.

Faced with the grief of losing a loved one, the girl was very afraid of such days, because she no longer had the right to talk about her mother in public.

But colleagues listened and said, do not buy for the mother, you can buy for yourself ah.

The girl's mind collapsed, directly dislike back: "You have no end, a few dozen dollars of flowers, have to get together group purchase, poor as such do not buy ah!"

A word that causes heartache.

The mountain does not understand the majesty of the sea, the sea does not understand the silence of the mountain, things did not happen to colleagues, she could not understand the girl's grief at that moment.

Just like Ba Swansong said in "Pain and Happiness".

A person's life will always encounter such a time, your heart has been a war of the sky, but in the eyes of others you are just a little more silent than usual, no one will find it strange. This kind of war is destined to be single-handed.

Life is a lonely journey, your world rained, wet is you, cold is you, need to silently bear all this is also you.

Other people can not empathize, and can not empathize.

I read this sentence: "Believe it or not, people always quietly change their character after they have experienced something."

When you think about it, it's true.

When we are young, we always like to render sentimentality to the earth.

After growing up, but slowly learn to swallow all the grievances alone, learn to heal themselves, and understand some things, only their understanding.

In the TV series "Xiaoping's Home", Lou Xiaoping met Mr. Si, who loved to read poetry as much as himself, when he was in his hometown of Jiangsu, and with similar interests, the two became pen pals and talked about poetry in the form of letters.

Although innocent, Mr. Si's wife found out about it and misunderstood it as an affair, which made everyone know about it.

Neighbors pointed fingers at Xiaoping, and behind her back made up a limerick to make fun of her: "Lou Xiaoping, flower butterfly, wearing a pair of small white shoes ......

Lou Xiaoping was divorced and had to leave her hometown and come to Beijing alone to make a living.

Many years later, Xiaoping and hairdresser Li Ping met, knowing Xiaoping's pain, but Li Ping repeatedly and deliberately in front of her mentioned the "small white shoes".

Although Minnie pretended to be light-heated on the surface, the incident became a dark wound inside her.

Fortunately, only Chen Zhou could understand her, and when she talked to Chen Zhou about the past, Chen Zhou just held her hand, listened quietly, and comforted her by saying, "Let bygones be bygones."

I read this passage in the book.

Many things do not need to be explained, for those who believe in themselves, the explanation is superfluous; for those who do not believe in themselves, the explanation is unnecessary.

The ancients also said: "A thousand cups of wine with a confidant, the conversation is not more than half a sentence."

Not all things need to be said clearly, and not all people are worthy of your explanation.

For the people who are prejudiced against you, the explanation is always superfluous; for people who understand you, there is no need to explain.

There is no real empathy in the world, being misunderstood is the norm in life.

Compared to venting your heart everywhere and trying to explain yourself, silence is an open-minded state of mind after experiencing the world.

Kazoo Inamorata, the sage of Japanese management, was just an ordinary employee when he was young, doing R&D work in a company on the verge of bankruptcy.

To solve product problems, he often worked late into the night, and later simply moved his bed to the office, many colleagues did not see him and even ridiculed him for blind work.

Faced with the gossip of people around him, Kazoo Inamorata was unmoved and devoted himself to research, eventually inventing a new type of ceramic, which brought a turnaround to the company that was about to close down.

Just when everyone was counting on this big order for their living, Kazoo Inamorata noticed that many employees were intentionally leaving some work until the end of the day to earn overtime, so he immediately proposed to ban overtime work.

As a result, he was unanimously opposed to this move by his employees, the labor union attacked him, and his heart was bruised.

He was advised by his seniors that he should compromise and make everyone happy, but he disagreed and finally chose to quit his job and start his own business with nothing, founding two Fortune 500 companies.

Looking back on the hardships along the way, Kazoo Inamorata said.

When the pressure is so great that you are about to collapse, do not tell others, and do not feel aggrieved, no one will feel sorry for you. No one will feel sorry for you. Your heart can be broken, but your hands cannot stop, so do what you have to do. Amid a breakdown to continue to move forward, this is the cultivation of an adult.

At the low point of his life, Kazoo Inamorata did not have a single whine and did not long for everyone to understand him because he knew that for those who did not understand him, all those ideas and experiences he had were just a joke.

Very often, people only care about how high you fly and do not care about the wounds and sufferings you have suffered along the way.

Feng Zika also said: "If your heart is small, all the small things will be big; if your heart is big, all the big things will be small. When you look down on the vicissitudes of the world, your heart is at peace."

In the world of adults, with different positions, different outlooks, and different levels, someone understands is lucky, no one understands is the norm.

The world's problems, not too much expectation, the time and energy left to worthy people and things.

The cold wind blows through" there is a sentence: "The snow that falls in a person's life, we can not see all. Each person is in their own life, alone through the winter."

Walking on the journey of life, everyone has their suffering, how much aggravation, how hard it is, no one can empathize with you except yourself.

Fall, get up; cry, wipe your tears; tired, let yourself rest.

me roads, have to go by themselves; some injuries, have to heal themselves; some things, have to carry themselves.

The world's sorrows and joys are not connected, you don't need to explain yourself everywhere, and never expect others to understand you.

The rest of your life is very expensive, may you know your warmth and cold, understand their sadness and happiness, live in style and free, and do their ferryman.