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My Ex Hasn't Contacted Me In A Month (My Ex Hasn't Spoken To Me In A Month)

Are you unfortunate to be in a world where you're saying my ex hasn't contacted me in a month, and don't know what to do about it? This happens to a lot of relationships and frankly there's usually one main reason that causes you to be in a position where you're saying my ex hasn't spoken to me in a month.

By Lyra NoahPublished 2 years ago ā€¢ 5 min read
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My Ex Hasn't Contacted Me In A Month (My Ex Hasn't Spoken To Me In A Month)
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Love is not an easy thing to go through, and no one likes being hurt. If you and your ex have called it quits, then you may want them back. If you are trying to get your ex back and to even contact you, try some the following and see how fast they come back.

While you may have a hard time staying in all the time, if you only go to places where you know they are going to be, your best bet is to go when they are not there or go somewhere else. They need time to miss you in order to contact you.

Give Them a Reason

This is not as hard as you are thinking, and if you want them to call, you need to give them a reason. This can be something as simple as needing a favor or any other reason. Try doing something different and being around their friends. They are going to become curious and natural instinct is to call you.

Give Them Time

While it's hard to stand back and hope that they call, but the less they see you, the more they will miss you especially if they want you back as well. Give them a few days and start showing up in places they are for a few minutes and then leave. Don't talk to them but make them see you there.

Heighten Their Curiosity

This is additionally something easy to do. Text them and tell them something excited has just happened. Their instinct is going to be to call to see what it is and then you can strike a conversation bout anything within reason.

Make Them Proud

If your ex knows you have been trying to accomplish something, accomplish it and then tell your ex about it. They are going to be so proud of you for getting something done that was important to you.

Ask For Help

If your ex is passionate about something, from fixing cars to something else, call for help and ask for a favor from them. The second they see you old feelings should come back and the feelings are going to be mutual, especially if it has been a few weeks.

Change Your Image

This is going to be one of the most obvious and bothersome things about you that your ex is going to wonder about. Change your looks a little and see how fast they are texting or calling you to find out why and for who.

Getting Back Together After a Break Up - Things to Be Careful About

So, getting back together after a break up may seem like the easiest thing to do. After all, you have won back your love, now what in the world could go wrong? A thousand things, believe me. A relationship after a break up is not the same and there may be some very important dos and don'ts that may go a long way in cementing the cracks that have appeared in the fabric of the relationship during the break up.

The first and foremost of them is to be willing to make any changes or adjustments required. Often these adjustments may be the result of the need to change some habits or behaviors that may have caused irritation earlier (or worse... had caused the break up itself). Or it may be changes that may need to be made in view of the slightly altered equation of their relationship post the break up. So, getting back together after a break up may not be the most comfortable of experiences emotionally or physically but remember that if you really love your partner or ex lover, then the effort may really be worth it.Secondly, keep the communication gates open. Openly discussing and evaluating the reason for the break up and finding common ground between the two of you is the only sensible and long lasting way to bridge up the gaps in the relationship.

Complete honesty and sincerity towards your lover (or ex lover) is the one and only foolproof way to making an inroad into his/her heart. Sincerity cannot be faked... at least not for a long period of time and will always come through as a true virtue in testing times. It will make the relationship stronger and the trust of your lover in you more permanent.

Respect boundaries. One of the most common reasons for another break up after a couple got back together is that they put in too much of themselves in to their union after the break up. Mostly one or the other person in the relationship tends to compromise themselves when getting back together but after some time either feels cheated or feels that they have given in too much (at least much more than the other one). So remain true to yourself and also respect your partner for this. That is, never make or expect promises that cannot be kept or agree to terms or conditions that are unlikely to be met.

Avoid blame games and verbal tug-o-wars. Never engage in arguments that start with "You said..." This leads to a virtual fight for power over the situation and in a bid to stay on top, you may only end up causing more heartburn or disgruntlement. Such arguments prepare the grave of a relationship and serve no other purpose than to bring the relationship closer to a messy break up sooner or later. Remember your relationship is no fighting ring but a love nest, where it is better that all be winners.

And last but not the least is the eternal advice... learn to listen. Take your partner or ex lover seriously. Listen to their requests and complaints seriously and intently; always avoiding the urge to laugh it off if they don't seem significant enough to you. Learn to relate to their problem as if it is your own problem. Try to find or suggest solutions but never overdo it. Often the troubled person is only looking for a friend in you, who could empathise with their situation. Sometimes compassion and the ability to reassure the other person is all it takes to build up a long lasting and good relationship.

Getting back together after a break up is not a game and let's face it, sincere effort is required on the part of both the ex lovers, in spite of all the love that they may be sharing. Remember, it won't just happen! you have to make it happen!

Pay Close Attention Here-

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How fast do you think you can win back the one you love? If you could trigger the interest of you ex to desire you passionately again, will you do it? Click here to learn how to make the one you love to feel a burning desire to be back with you again. It is simply amazing!

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