Love, feelings, and rejections don't appear to bother them at all

Perhaps your recent split was traumatic.

Perhaps someone you really care about has just rejected you.

Perhaps you just discovered that particular someone is looking for someone else after seeing them on Tinder.

You have a broken heart, and you can feel it wilting away inside of you, whatever it is. Knowing that there is a gap between you and the other person, a gap you wish so desperately wasn't there, causes you grief on a daily basis.

And just as you begin to heal and feel like your life is returning to some semblance of equilibrium, something—a song, a name—reminds you of that broken part of yourself—your wild, loving heart.

Some folks just don't appear to be wired the same way you are, it seems. Love, feelings, and rejections don't appear to bother them at all.

You might feel envious of them. You can promise yourself that going forward, you'll be even colder and more callous. I don't need love, he said. You reiterate.

But as you lie in bed, you have romantic dreams. You yearn to be hugged and loved by someone. You tell yourself that nothing compares to the sense of being loved.

How do you cope with having a broken heart that cries out to be loved and cared for?

Assuring yourself that it's okay to feel how you feel is the first step.

You have a right to your sentiments, regardless of your position or role in this world.

Loving another person is not dumb or stupid. Even if they don't reciprocate your affection, it still happens frequently and is lovely.

Admit to yourself that you are experiencing something amazing and entirely natural, and then allow yourself to cry. You are not a loser or a weaker person just because you are hurt by this connection.

In many ways, our ability to feel is what defines us as humans.

Finding an outlet is the next step.

There's a reason why so many emotionally sensitive people also have artistic tendencies. A excellent method to channel your emotions into something useful is through art. You can still draw a picture, write a poem, or manufacture a necklace without any prior artistic training.

There are many different ways to develop a skill or practice art. Just engage in anything that will stimulate your thoughts and hands.

That could even include attending a pottery class once a week or tackling a crossword at a coffee shop.

I try to let my feelings come out on the guitar as I play the song. Although the process might be rather dirty and chaotic, it feels cathartic and like something that has been trapped inside of me is being let out.

Although helpful, it is not a miracle cure.

Realizing that we're all dealing with some kind of broken heart is the third stage.

That means you should also treat yourself well. Be equally kind to yourself and other people.

Living is difficult. It has always been the same for everyone. Once you realize that, you might be able to gain some perspective on your own struggles while living in the world. Although it doesn't lessen the reality of the suffering, it can help put it in a broader context.

The fourth stage for coping with a broken heart follows from that.

Find techniques to gradually restore your damaged heart.

Do we really truly recover from a heartbreak?

Every time I feel like my damaged heart has fully recovered, someone new comes along to rip it apart once more.

It seems as though there are tiny crevices in our hearts that certain individuals can enter, whereupon they instantly shatter into a million tiny fragments.

After that, we take a long time to put ourselves back together. We gradually quit worrying. We gain control over our thoughts and find the joy that life brings us. We eat well, laugh, and seek out ways to lose ourselves in the present.

But it leaves you wondering: Will this keep happening again and again?

Possibly. Maybe a broken heart can never be repaired. There are so many small ways that life is terrible that it is difficult to predict what will make you sad.

Although it isn't an ideal path, you can bravely travel it.

Not that anything will ever hurt you again. You'll be ready for the horrifying, agonizing, and harrowing experience that is being a human. Because there is no use in waking up in the morning if you are not prepared to give life your best shot, you will be willing to take a chance.

No one of us comes out of this unscathed. No one of us survives this.