Love Also Wears Ugly Masks: The 5 Types of Difficult Partners

How is yours? Find out if your life partner can be included in any of the five difficult partner categories reported by renowned psychologist Earl Henslin.

In love and the relationship with the loved one, we do not always behave most correctly and easily possible. Some of us, even if we love, seem to always go to the left in a relationship.

Some of us, more than others, may find that they have difficult partners or that they are also difficult. Earl Henslin and Daniel Amen in the book 'This is Your Brain in Love: New Scientific Breakthroughs for a More Passionate and Emotionally Healthy Marriage' and sexuality.

At the same time, the renowned psychologist and relationship specialist Earld Henslin brings up five different personalities of partners, difficult and unstable personalities. For these types of partners, experiencing love is difficult or they can make their partner feel uncomfortable.

Scattered boyfriend

These partners have a high level of energy but at the opposite pole a low level of attention. They can hardly pay attention to anything unless they are completely fascinated by it. They have a gentle temperament, but they leave things at the last moment and then they panic.

Chaos stimulates their creative ability. They are not the best conversation partners, and their receptive language can often be non-expressive.

Usually, says Earl Henslin, this typology of scattered partners can be divided into two categories: that of extremely active partners, who seem to be inexhaustible and always present in everything that happens around them, and that of partners. absent, very intelligent, but lost in the world and their ideas. For practical, punctual, and orderly partners, this type of partner can make them jump by neglecting their way of being.

The ultra-concentrated boyfriend

For these partners, romantic experiences often turn out to be unhappy experiences. They are obsessed with the idea of ​​control in a relationship and tend to make decisions on behalf of their partner.

Their love often begins in the form of a 'fatal attraction', but over time it degenerates into an obsession, even harassing the loved one. They sometimes have a circular mindset, tending to be obsessive about an idea, not a positive thought most of the time or action.

You can meet this type of lover either in the person of the partner who does not forget an insult for years, or in the person who is obsessed with a certain activity, or in the one who has obsessive-compulsive inclinations. If the person you love is such a partner, listen to Earl Henslin's advice.

The psychologist urges us to show understanding, to pay attention to him, and to get involved. Blood sugar or hormone levels should not be overlooked.

The melancholy lover

The melancholy boyfriend seems constantly depressed, thoughtful, preoccupied with something. He has a negative mindset and a tendency to depression, everything is black, impossible, and dark for him. He does what he does and always finds the flaws, the weaknesses, and the negative aspects of an issue.

He perceives love as an extremely difficult thing, a real endeavor that cannot lead him to something good. Physically speaking, these partners do not seem to be able to experience joy. Pessimists and negativists tend to tip their fingers, they tend to grab and consume all the positive energy of their partners. With such a partner you have to be careful because it can become chronically depressed.

Make sure he doesn't feel lonely but don't overdo it. Physical exercise is also indicated to increase energy levels, but also a healthy diet, rich in vitamins and minerals.

Beloved maniac

The restless boyfriend shows a tendency towards aggression and seems to be the type who gets irritated and annoyed by anything. He is often upset, for trivial and ridiculous reasons, and his anger can quickly turn to anger. It calms down with difficulty.

It can be quite difficult to have such a partner. You may feel uncomfortable with a partner that you should always treat with gloves for fear of upsetting him or his anger. In his book, Psychologist Earl Henslin states that many domestic abusers begin as agitated lovers, eventually fueling their anger and even becoming dangerous.

If your partner has these tendencies, Earl advises you to pay attention to how he calms down and to encourage therapy if necessary. It is equally important to protect yourself and your mental state and to find the right way to eliminate stress.

Anxious boyfriend

"People become anxious lovers in one of two ways: either they have been hurt or traumatized in the past, or they have been born with an anxiety-prone brain," Earl said in "This is your brain in love." For the anxious lover, the world around him is worthless, and love is a touchstone.

He is also frightened by the idea of ​​not falling in love because he perceives love as a difficult and dangerous experiment. He does not have very high self-esteem and in a relationship he tends to feel insecure, being able to hurt the other easily because of this.

Sexual intercourse can be a medicine for these partners, adds the psychologist. Physical contact and physical contact calm them down and keep them from worrying about their fears.