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Infidelity of the Soul: Betrayal Without Touch…

Do you believe in this kind of infidelity?

By Karren SwampPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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Infidelity of the Soul: Betrayal Without Touch…
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Emotional infidelity is a relationship established by words. We don't need sex to discuss infidelity. It can also occur when the partner expresses his feelings and affection in front of someone else.

Emotional infidelity is established when one of the partners establishes an intense and romantic relationship with another person, apart from the couple, without it being about sex. Today, in the age of the Internet, emotional infidelity can also occur online. According to statistics, 54% of men and 28% of women say that an intense connection established through the Internet does not mean adultery.

The reason for this type of infidelity is not the physical need for sex. People want to feel special and if they do not find appreciation at home, then they start looking elsewhere, just to satisfy this need.

The Internet is a very easy way to find emotional support, and at the same time, the risk is minimal. But emotional infidelity does not only set in such conditions. Emotional infidelity can also be facilitated by office relationships, for example.

The enemy with the innocent smile of a married life

"The biggest betrayal in a relationship can happen without a trace. Many people mistakenly believe that infidelity is not infidelity if sex is not included in a relationship with another person, "says adultery expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker 

Weil, author of" Adultery: The Forgivable Sin. Sin) calls this type of relationship "the infidelity of the soul." The infidelity of the soul happens when it is shared a lot, even if sex is not part of the story.

Weil believes that emotional infidelity is far more dangerous and destructive to a couple's relationship than a strictly sexual one. "Many married people do not leave their partner just for someone who can satisfy their sexual needs, but the infidelity of the soul can push them towards this gesture. "You can always stop sex, but you can't stop emotions," Bonnie Eaker Weil told Life Wise.

Experts share the unanimous opinion that this type of infidelity begins in a very innocent way: the daily flirtations near the coffee maker, the lunch at work, the evenings spent with colleagues after work so that soon, the platonic friendship will turn into an intimate relationship. Slowly, the space assigned exclusively to his wife or girlfriend begins to be invaded by another person.

Emotional infidelity can be avoided through communication

Emotional infidelity refers to the behavior that a partner engages in a close relationship with someone else, a behavior that also ensures a possible sexual connection in the future.

Most people keep friends secret or semi-secret when there is a mutual attraction involved. Emotional infidelity is sometimes caused by selfishness. Some people happen to encourage someone's interest, even if they don't necessarily feel attracted, just to stimulate their ego, writes Psychology Today.

The sad truth is emotional infidelity can be easily hidden and you can't find clues that your partner is cheating on you. Because this connection is not based on sex, there are far fewer opportunities to detect emotional infidelity.

Many books and articles talk about ways you can find out if your partner is having sex with someone else, but what are the ways you can realize that he is cheating on you emotionally?

First, you need to consider your partner's personality, PsychologyToday suggests. Worry about his integrity, how much do you trust him? How loyal is he to family or friends? His job? Is there a clue in his life about betrayal?

And last but not least, the headline made you read this article. We all have very strong instincts that guide us. It will be challenging for your instinct to tell you whether or not you are emotionally deceived, but it will certainly tell you easily, right from the start, if that person in your life can be trusted or if he or she has unfaithful behavior.

And it is never wrong to discuss this subject with your partner, so you will both be sure that you have the same perspective on infidelity. "Talk to him and find out what infidelity means from his point of view, rather than questioning him like a detective.

You can tell him that you read an article that shows how men and women have different perceptions about some aspects of life and try to challenge him in this discussion, "encourages Seth Meyers, a doctor of psychology and a contributor to PsychologyToday.

In the end, the way he reacted can tell you a lot about infidelity. "In my experience, couples are waiting until the last minute to discuss uncomfortable issues, and this topic is no exception. Talk when everything is going well in your relationship to anticipate the war later! "Says Dr. Seth Meyers.

For her part, Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, a couple of psychologists cited at the beginning of the article, explains how important sincere dialogue is between two people. "The secrets you have, the refusal to be responsible, and also the refusal to communicate are the behavioral aspects that ruin most couples.

The longer he waits for the right moment to discuss these issues, the less likely it is that a relationship will not fall apart, "said Weil.

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