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How to *really* know you’re in love

By sagar dhitalPublished 2 months ago 3 min read

Are you confused about love? You're not alone! When you search for advice on love, you might find a lot of confusing stuff. But don't worry, we're here to help you sort through it all.

Let's talk about some of the common things people say about love and why they might not be so helpful.

First off, have you ever heard someone say, "They're always on your mind"? Well, that's nice and all, but it's not necessarily love. It could just be infatuation, which means you're super into someone but maybe not thinking straight. Real love is more chill. It fits into your life without taking over.

And what about when people say, "You crave them" or "can't get enough of them"? Sure, it's cool to want to spend time with someone you like, but if it's all-consuming, that might not be so healthy. Real love means you can be apart sometimes and still feel okay.

Then there's the classic, "They're your 'everything'." Um, nope. That's not how it works. You should have other important things in your life too, like friends, family, hobbies, and goals. Real love adds to your life, but it doesn't take over.

And don't even get us started on, "You see them in your future." Sure, it's nice to imagine a future with someone you care about, but don't base your whole life around them. You've got to have your own dreams and plans too.

And here's a big one: "You'll do whatever it takes to impress them." Hold up! That's not love, that's trying too hard. Real love is about being yourself and being loved for who you are, flaws and all.

Oh, and let's not forget about jealousy. If you're feeling jealous all the time, that's not love – that's insecurity. Real love is trusting each other and feeling secure in your relationship.

So, how can you tell if you really love someone? Well, it's not about those big, dramatic gestures. It's about the little things you do every day.

Like, do you make an effort to understand their point of view, even when you disagree? Do you listen to them and support them, even when it's not easy? Do you respect their boundaries and give them space when they need it?

Real love is about being there for each other, through the good times and the bad. It's about treating each other with kindness and respect, even when you're upset or angry.

And here's the thing – love is a choice. It's something you have to work at every day. You have to choose to love someone, even when it's hard. You have to choose to forgive them when they mess up. You have to choose to keep showing up, even when you're tired or frustrated.

But here's the good news – when you do choose to love someone, it's totally worth it. Because real love is one of the best things in the world. It brings joy and happiness, and it makes life a whole lot sweeter.

So, if you're wondering whether you're really in love, stop searching for signs and start asking yourself some questions. Are you willing to put in the work? Are you committed to being there for each other, no matter what? Are you ready to choose love, every single day?

If the answer is yes, then congratulations – you're on the right track. And if not, that's okay too. Love takes time, and it's okay to be unsure. Just keep being kind, keep being honest, and keep being open to the possibility of love. It might just find you when you least expect it.

In the end, love is all about the little things – the everyday moments of kindness, understanding, and connection. So don't stress about finding the perfect relationship or fitting into someone else's idea of love. Just focus on being yourself, being kind, and being open to love in all its forms. Trust us, it's out there – and when you find it, it's pretty amazing.


About the Creator

sagar dhital

I'm a creative writer in the way that I write. I hold the pen in this unique and creative way you've never seen. The content which I write... well, it's still to be determined if that's any good.

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