Learn to Love Again, Even if Your Heart Is Broken and You Suffer

Learn to love again - when your heart is broken so that you feel real pain in your chest, suffering that keeps you from breathing, it is easy to believe that you will never love again… Life is often cruel: immense happiness and wonderful love can become overnight boundless despair and almost unbearable suffering…

When you have a broken heart, you feel that you will never be able to learn to love again, to give your heart again, to feel the same burning passion again. Moreover, you do not want to love again: why risk going through the torments involved in the death of love, the end of a relationship in which you put your whole soul?

But you will learn over time that love also involves suffering: the wise say that a true moment of love, the dream moment in which you know that you love and that you are loved is worth the pain that can come…

No matter how impossible it may seem to you now when you still feel that your heart is broken into small pieces, you will learn to love again. But you have to help yourself - you are the only one who can help you! After a bitter disappointment in love, we believe that there is nothing for us in love, that we will not be able to feel the same with someone else.

And we can do more harm than good, avoiding any feeling, any involvement, any risk of being hurt. Without learning, however, that living involves feeling and pain, we waste our lives, withdrawing and hiding in an empty life.

Learn to love again:

Experiencing your pain. Don't try to hide from yourself what you feel when someone breaks your heart. Don't try to forget or heal yourself by looking for a dressing relationship.

Stay alone for a while, a period in which to mourn your loss and in which to gain a broader perspective on the relationship ended. Crying and then learning something from the disappointment in love are the first steps in your healing. Your heart will be full, but only after you have accepted the loss.

Leave what was in the past. Often, after a broken relationship with a broken heart, you get sick for a long time, continuing to hope that the one who died will be resurrected. Continuing to hope that maybe, after a while, you will reconcile with the person you loved so much (and whom you probably still love).

And even if you know that there is no chance of reconciliation, you feel bad staying in the past, living from memories, and spending your time looking at old photos… Any end, even the most painful possible, is a beginning: so try to start over, to think of yourself in the present moment and not of you from the past!

Focus on yourself. You are alone - which seems unbearable. After giving your soul to someone and getting fully involved in a relationship, waking up to being alone is awful. You start to think that maybe you don't deserve to be happy or maybe it's something in you that keeps you from having a relationship.

You lose confidence in yourself, but also your love. To what you want to do, to your development as a human being. To learn to love again, you must learn to love yourself, to accept yourself as you are, to make plans to be better, to stop blaming yourself. Do you think that you need someone with you to be happy, do you think that without being in a relationship, you are nothing?

Learn to like yourself, learn to enjoy the pleasures of life even without a partner, and try to develop as a human being! Under no circumstances should another relationship begin too quickly, seeking relief and support…

To learn to love again, think about what was said at the beginning of the article: Even if you suffer now, was it worth living such a beautiful love? Is it worth suffering for love? Or would you rather never love? In time, you will see that love is worth the risk, that the only way to truly live is to allow yourself to feel, to leave your heart free, not to lock yourself in a block of stone. Life would be too mundane, too dry without love, even if love can bring pain. Being happy can also involve suffering.

Loving with body and soul can also involve loss. This is life - and you have to learn that the only way to truly live is to accept the risks. Don't control yourself, don't build a defensive wall, don't get cold to those around you: but get over the pain by continuing to live. For the broken heart heals in time and one day it will be ready to tremble again by the overwhelming emotions given by love…