When Your Partner Is Too Busy for You

When your partner is much too busy, when he doesn't have enough time for you, you may end up feeling in the background, as if his activities are more important to him than you are… An often busy partner with whom spending too little time can make you feel neglected and unappreciated.

When you feel that you are not together enough, when you have to plan each meeting, when it often happens that you delay or postpone meetings, you may come to think that you care more about your work and activities than about yourself.

You are in a relationship, and yet you feel lonely and spend too many evenings alone… And if often, even when you are together, your partner is too tired, distracted, and preoccupied with others, you are already starting to wonder if you are the only one involved in this relationship.

Having a partner who is too busy, who doesn't spend enough time with you, and who ignores your needs and desires, can seriously affect your self-confidence: you start to feel unimportant.

In time, you can get used to being content with what you receive, with those short periods you can be together. But you will live with frustration and constant fear: "Does he care about me, why does he always put me in second place?"

When your partner is too busy:

Is he busy, busy with his work? Or do you suspect that he is using the pretext that he is busy so as not to see you too often? If he often apologizes for not being able to see you because he's busy, but you don't know exactly what that is, what he's doing, it may just be a way to avoid spending time together.

If he is too busy to see you but finds time for other activities as well. Sometimes, your partner feels the need to take a break, to distance himself a little from the relationship: maybe because he no longer feels happy in the relationship, maybe he doesn't feel attracted to you anymore, or maybe he feels pressured.

But not wanting to have an unpleasant discussion, he uses the pretext that he is busy… Does he often tell you that he is busy, and then finds out that he "finished faster" and went out in the city? you face it: why does he feel the need to move away from you, why does he want to be alone for so long, what bothers him/her in your relationship, what does he/she think doesn't work anymore?

When your partner is busy - other times, even if you can't help but feel the second place, neglected, jealous of his or her work, your partner may go through a crucial period in his or her career. . So he gets much more involved in his work, he becomes constantly preoccupied with it and, unwittingly, he forgets to give you as much time, attention, affection.

When you know too well that he is working on an important project, that he is trying to develop, to advance and to impose himself in the company, that he wants to make a good impression, then you will have to try to be a support and not an obstacle! Professional development is essential for a person's satisfaction: the couple's partner must stimulate, encourage and be a supportive shoulder.

Even if you are jealous during work time, even if you feel a little neglected and unappreciated, try to understand your partner and support him. No one needs a partner who, instead of understanding the importance of professional self-realization, complains that he is no longer taken into account!

Do not press your partner, do not force him to choose between his work and you, and do not make him feel guilty because he ignores you. Such an attitude, instead of bringing him closer to you, will take him further away from you, because he will see that you do not understand. Blaming a busy partner for not caring about you most likely leads to conflict: he or she will feel the need to defend himself/herself, you will attack, then he/she will attack in turn… When it comes to important beginnings or periods of transition in the professional life of your partner, you simply have to accept that time will be too busy…

When your partner is too busy to be addicted to work. He constantly puts his career first, dedicating more time to his work than anything else. There was talk of a real addiction to work: not only is a professional achievement the most important goal, but some people seek and find satisfaction only in their work.

In this situation, you need to ask yourself why your partner does not find satisfaction in your relationship, in the time spent together. Some strengthen their self-esteem, find their fulfillment of self-fulfillment needs and satisfaction primarily through work and not through relationships.

Maybe your partner feels valuable, important, and appreciated only at work and not in a relationship. If you reproach him that he cares more about his work than you do, there is a danger of taking him away and annoying him. He tries to talk to her, but not criticizing the time he devotes to work, but telling her that you lack his presence, affection, and attention (without blaming!).

When your partner is too busy with the profession and forgets to give you more time, attention, affection, things between you can easily cool down to freezing. Try, however, when he is busy and busy with his work, to understand that this does not mean that you are not important to him/her - but it means that his / her work is extremely important for his / her sense of self-realization.

Try not to be jealous of your partner's career, but be sure to express your feelings, need and desire for him/her to dedicate time and attention to you. Don't forget to give them appreciation and admiration - maybe you don't get them in the relationship and look for them through work. But ask yourself the most important question: Are we compatible in terms of life expectancy?

Because if you need a close relationship and value relationships and family first and foremost, while your partner needs professional performance and values ​​career, it can be too hard to maintain a harmonious relationship!