Keep your mouth and cultivate your heart to be a better you

The words that hurt people like spilled water, said it can not be retracted.

No one can be sure that today's "wrong" for tomorrow's hole, continue to open the mouth to offend people, a hundred harm but no good, rather than learn to guard the mouth carefully, to do better themselves.

1. can not do things, do not easily promise

I have heard a sentence, I feel that there is a reason.

"Can not do the promise and lying is no different."

Sometimes, what you casually promised others, once not done, will not only affect your relationship but also inadvertently hurt others.

It is important to know that he took your promise seriously, but you just casually promised, how much hope, how big will be the disappointment.

The relationship is good again, after this injury, can not go back to the old days.

The fact is that you'll be able to get a lot more than just a few of these.

If you do not take the initiative to grow, society will force you to grow.

I once met a person who likes to talk nonsense at the table, saying something that can not be done, acquaintances know that he loves to brag, but do not understand the situation, it will think he is very powerful.

I don't know how it happened, but some people believed him.

When drinking with him, he called him a brother, patting him on the back, coaxing him to agree to help introduce work.

That person sobered up, received a text message are scared silly.

After all, the real him, no power, no power, why introduce work to others, helpless, he can only try to avoid, trying to use the time to wear out this commitment.

However, others are sincere to please, constantly call to ask about the situation, ask to finally understand what's going on, in a common circle spit out, so that his reputation is shaken, who knows that he loves to brag.

Later, the man disappeared from the circle. I heard that they no longer dare to drink and brag, for fear of a careless and planted.

Be careful what you say, don't brag about the sky, give people hope, and can't do, and finally hurt people more hurt themselves.

2. Behind the back gossip, easy to eat their consequences

Although people have the right to freedom of speech, gossip behind people's backs, is ultimately not good.

Once discovered by the person concerned, compared to your embarrassment, the damage to her will be greater, mental injury, sometimes far more painful than the physical injury.

In the Hong Kong drama "Love Home Happy Express", there was an episode where someone opened a group specifically to discuss how earthy a person's dress was, where they spit on others every day and talk about everyone.

At first, the girl being discussed did not know she was being attacked in private, but as more and more people around her pointed fingers, she found out the truth.

Although she lied to get justice for herself if she hadn't been able to fight back, imagine how an ordinary girl wouldn't have broken down when she found out she was being maliciously discussed by so many people.

In the back of others gossip, is seemingly very painful, but in reality, is a villainous behavior, think differently, you would like to be gossiped about? What you do not want, do not do to others.

The reasoning is understood, and why do you need to knowingly violate?

If you have time to gossip about others, you might as well spend more time improving yourself, keeping your mouth, cultivating your heart, establishing virtue, and being an educated person.

3. The heart has a complaint, so learn to restrain

Maupassant said, "This life, neither as good as you think, nor as bad as you think."

When you feel overwhelmed, you may want to look at the problem from a different perspective, you may be able to find the answer.

Instead of constantly complaining about the bad things in life, you should learn to look at things with optimism.

Everything has two sides, it is good and it is bad.

Don't always put your eyes on the "bad", sometimes change the perspective of the "good", you will find that there is nothing to get over.

Complaining too much will only add to your worries and affect your mood, but also affect the people around you, and over time friends will slowly become fewer.

Spend time complaining about not being worth it, there should be time to learn more, and strive to improve themselves, to do a better version of themselves.

Life is not long and not short, will encounter more than a lot of trouble, reckless action will only get them into trouble, be careful what they say and do, to control their life road.

The mouth in the heart to repair, the road under the feet to walk.