It is not easy to know how to be kind

Deeply convinced, that kindness is indeed not easy.

Some people will take advantage of the kindness of others to do bad things, those years have happened in tragedies, and all of them are proof of the harm of the wrong good intentions, you think you are helping others, but do not think will be led into hell.

Is it the fault of goodness?

Yes or no, the answer does not matter, what matters is that your kindness is right.

Just be measured, don't put yourself in danger because you want to help others.

1, kindness, need to have angles

See the poor people, less will have compassion and feel that they should help each other.

Have seen a video, the video of the protagonist said she had not drunk milk tea, people around her family thought she was so poor that they had never even seen milk tea, so friends around her are doing their best to help her without showing traces.

Although the end of the video is revealed that the protagonist is rich, what touches me is the kindness of everyone, for fear of helping too deliberately, so that the other party felt that they were pitying her, and chose to constantly find excuses to help, in the name of their own needs, the line of help.

Kindness is not something that can be done to others, it is pleasant and natural, just like sometimes, kindness is about peace of mind.

Do it naturally, without intention, without embarrassing others, and with peace of mind.

There are just some people who deserve to be treated with kindness and some who don't.

In the early years of the romance drama appeared in the role of "sticky note girl", at the time to see her performance is to work hard, feel that she is too weak, grow up and look again but think that her kindness harmed her, in the face of the kindness should not have excessive compromise, and finally get is someone else's inch.

Whenever someone pretends to be pathetic and says they have something to do, without waiting for others to say anything, she will be soft-hearted and take the work to her body.

Always hold the idea of soft-heartedness, the damage is going to come back to you.

Your soft-heartedness, in return, may not be kindness, but to gain an inch.

Maybe, in the end, they work groping into the habit of being fired, which will also shift the responsibility that you harmed them.

Why bother, condescending to themselves, but also in exchange for blame?

So that people, can not be unprincipled kindness, a soft-hearted compromise, will only make them become good bullies, after all, you do not know whether others' "hard" is pretend, compromise too much, will only indulge their greed.

In other words, instead of helping people, it is better to say that they are harming people.

The point is, also tired of themselves.

There is this time, it is better to go to work as a social worker, to help people who need help.

Your kindness, you need to have a little angle, there is no need to always compromise, it is easy to spoil others, to get enemies, and finally harm themselves, to live a messy life.

2, kindness, is a natural thing

In the porcelain incident that repeatedly occurred, I had doubts "that people should still be kind?"

Despite the doubts in the heart, but encounter someone who needs help, or can not help but have compassion.

However, there will be more eyes, looking for people filming to help people, not looking for fame, just to not be blackmailed.

I have to say, more or fewer people will be "porcelain" influence, afraid to do a good thing, to lose themselves.

What's more, later there was a girl to help people abducted, raped, killed and a series of things, who still dare to help people easily, less have to be more careful, otherwise, the last cry may be their own.

I think more eyes are good but do not help because of a moment of kindness should not help people.

Although kindness is a natural thing, helping others can not help to put themselves in danger, everything should be measured, within limits, to help people right, just afraid to help people with ulterior motives.

When you are not sure if you can help, you can direct the other party to the police station for help, they can not help the matter, but the police may be able to help.

Mature people, will not easily put themselves in danger, and know how to use "goodness" sensibly, to distinguish between the should and should not.

We can be kind, but not out of proportion.

3.

Russell said: "Of all the moral qualities, good nature is the most necessary in the world."

No matter what has happened to you, do not give up kindness.

Kindness is right, the wrong is only for certain people or things.

Maybe insisting on kindness will make you suffer a little, but it's good to be a man with a clear conscience.

Life in the world, not everything can be as it should be, sometimes there will always be a little regret, you can do is adhere to your good, do not have a guilty conscience, do the heart of good, do not owe anyone, do a good job, it is good!