Is She Flirty or Is She Friendly?

There is a fine line between being friendly and flirty. It’s easy to get it mixed up, especially when you get mixed signals.

There are cases when someone is just being genuinely kind. But that doesn’t mean they like you that way.

Fret not. There are tons of indicators to tell whether a girl is into you or not. All you need to do is keep a keen eye while not being too obvious.

Reading between the lines is not any man's forte. It takes a while for you to get a hint. Sometimes, you need to hear it in clear words and phrases.

But for the sake of your future (and hopefully happy) relationship, you should know the difference between whether a woman is being flirty or just being friendly.

Friendly: She does random acts of kindness.

When someone is kind out of nowhere, it can be suspicious. There’s a reason why parents tell their kids not to talk to strangers at a young age — and this still rings true even when you’ve reached adulthood.

Nowadays, people only act kind in exchange for favors. Hence, it’s quite easy to doubt anyone. But believe it or not, people can still be kind in this day and age. Women, especially.

Women are known to be more in tune and honest with their emotions than men. If they see anyone in need, they are quick to help out.

Now, there are some women who feign kindness just to score some points. Shutting them down by seeing it as a random act of kindness would usually deter them.

Whether they have hidden motives or are genuinely kind, you shouldn’t read into it too much.

Flirty: She finds ways to reach out to you.

Some women like to play it cool by abiding by the three-day rule. That way, they don’t come off as clingy. But if a woman is truly interested in you, she will make an effort to reach out as soon as she is available.

This can only mean that she thinks of you as a great catch. Out of the tons of fish that she would have plucked out of the sea, she managed to catch you. It would be foolish of her to let you go.

So, what does she do that indicates interest? She asks for your contact info, initiates conversation, and, most importantly, drops whatever she’s doing to reply to you.

She does all this for the sake of spending time with you. No woman would go that far unless they are into you.

Friendly: She feels comfortable opening up to you.

Women are very cautious when choosing someone they open up to. They are very much aware of their flaws, and this makes them fear driving people off.

That’s why they only open up to the people they are comfortable with and trusts — such as their friends and close family members.

If you connect the dots, you're probably just a trusted friend.

Flirty: She feels comfortable touching you.

Most women are incredibly tactile. They have no problems initiating touch when it comes to the people they like. To them, physical affection is their way of expressing how comfortable they are around a person.

In the case of a man, it indicates interest.

This doesn’t immediately mean that they are willing to go on a date with you just yet. Their touch can mean a myriad of things, and it can be difficult to decipher.

Sometimes women like to flirt for simple fun, nothing more. Others might be touchy because that’s just the way they are with everyone. Of course, some get touchy to let you know they like you.

Friendly: She is curious about your personal life.

It can be tricky to tell if a woman is interested in you on the basis that she’s trying to make conversation. Then again, she might be doing this out of politeness. That, or she’s trying to make friends with you and is interested in hanging out with you.

Flirty: Her voice pitch changes.

A dead giveaway that a girl is interested in you is when she talks in a voice that is a pitch higher than her usual tone.

If a woman is talking to you like she’s Batman, then she’s so clearly not into you. But if she speaks like she inhaled helium, then she most definitely likes you.

Women are more likely to raise the pitch of their voices around fellow women. When they are around men, women tend to be very “eh”. Even if it’s a guy friend, they aren’t likely to act feminine around them (i.e., greeting them with a bedhead, talking about their cycle around them, or having no etiquette in their company).

The only man exempt from this rule? The man they’re interested in.

Friendly: She’s playfully flirty.

Not all clear signs of flirting are flirting. It can also be a friendly kind of flirting.

Let’s say you’re at a party. Your female friend boldly acts flirty and teases you (minus the touches, of course). Other people get in on the joke and make hilarious comments. It’s not anything serious, it’s just all in the name of good fun. Plus, it livens up the party.

It’s the same concept of having a work “wife”. You guys are close and are often teased together. But at the end of the day, you’re just friends.

Flirty: She makes it clear she is single.

Here’s the scenario:

You strike up a conversation with a girl beside you, and you seem to hit it off. Mid conversation, she smoothly inserts that she’s currently not seeing anyone right now.

You’d have to be as dense as Mercury (the element, not the planet) if you don’t get what she’s implying. No woman would bring it up in a conversation for no reason unless they are interested in you. Otherwise, she’d tell you she’s already taken.

Still haven't figured it out? It’s perfectly fine.

You’re bound to make mistakes when trying to tell them apart. After all, every woman is unique. What applies to one may not apply to another. There’s no absolute way to tell if a woman is being flirty or friendly.

It’s all about making wise choices when shooting your shot.