Important Things To Keep In Mind When Dating An Introvert

So, you’re dating an introvert. Ugh. The person must be quite a mystery, am I right? He or She is also undeniably very attractive, very warm, caring, soft-spoken, and reliable. You may feel you’ve hit the jackpot, and you may be correct. You may also feel very comfortable hanging out with your introvert. You may have a couple of common interests with the person, which is wonderful. So, you’re ready to take the next step. Of moving in together. This is when you will come face to face with real hardcore introversion in a person.

No, I am not trying to scare you. I am only trying to help you so that you know what you are dealing with. I am not here to list the different attributes of an introvert either. That’s a heavily done and dusted topic. I am here to give you a glimpse of what it is like to live with an introvert and whether or not you are cut out to deal with what comes with it.

An introvert likes his or her place like no other personality type. It is where all the magic happens, however minuscule it is. Because there’s no other place in the universe where an introvert would be himself/herself. You may find that your love(your introvert) needs an unusual amount of time alone in his or her space. You may wonder why. And that’s totally normal. Your love is hardwired that way. Your love functions that way. Your love’s work productivity is best when done alone in his or her space away from people and that includes you as well. No, don’t try to change your love. Your love will try but simply won’t be able to change for you. Your love loves you very much, but that doesn’t mean that your love is as clingy and needy as you are.

Your love needs time alone also to relax, rewind, deal with a bad day, calm down after having an argument with you, reflect on life, and simply be himself/herself, much more than most other personality types. This is very normal for your love, but it may not be for you. So, please understand your love’s need to be alone. It’s for the good of both of you.

Your love is very sensitive. Harsh words and rude words will hurt your love. You should know that your love, inherently, is very responsible and cooperative. It is so because your love is extremely self-conscious of being judged, embarrassed, and ridiculed by others, and that includes you as well. Anything and everything could be sorted out amicably. This is your love’s motto in life. And it’s very important that you know this. At the same time, when you don’t give respect to your love’s natural feelings, your love will try to be patient for a long time and that’s because of the huge empathy your love has for you. Please do not take it for granted. Your love will fight back in defense, oftentimes, in a much ruder manner than you could possibly imagine.

This does two things. One: Your love will be profoundly upset that you made him or her hurl insults at you.Two: Your love will start to lose trust in you. The sensitive nature of your love is another thing you shouldn’t take for granted.

Your love doesn’t like going out much. And this will become a huge issue in your relationship if it is not taken care of much earlier. Your love likes to be where it is safe and secure. Your home. Your love likes chilling out with you on the couch in the living room and watching Netflix much more than even going on a world tour on the most expensive cruise. No, it’s not about affordability. Even if your love could easily afford to take you on a world tour, that may not be your love’s priority. Although your love may be willing to do so at some point.

Your love might cancel plans at the last moment and that might hurt you. The very thought about socializing with people and everything about it might be too overwhelming for your love. The noise of many people chit-chatting and all the smalltalk are immensely disliked by your love. You should know that very well. Most of the things that an extrovert enjoys may not be appealing to your love. They are polar opposites in many ways. Your love has only a few friends, and sometimes just one loyal buddy. And that might surprise you.

Your love may have issues with anxiety and/or depression. Many introverts suffer from mental issues and most do so silently. This is owing to having faced numerous judgments, embarrassments, and insults in the past in a world that is cut out primarily for extroverts to live and flourish. Talk to your love about these things if you can. It will help strengthen the relationship early on. Patience is the key to an introvert’s heart. Your love may have sleep problems or even be a night owl. If you are someone who sleeps early and wakes up early, there’s some possibility of friction occurring between you in this regard. Look out for it and make a plan for it before it’s too late.

Introverts are deeply loyal people with well-guarded hearts. Most are quite intelligent too, with a good sense of humor. They don’t open up to most people willingly as their brains often see it as a threat that would cause an energy drain and tire them physically and mentally. However, they always strive to cooperate with other people, be it at the workplace or when they are with their kith and kin. They appear to be confused about many simple things in life. They may take a long time to make a decision on important matters in life. As a result, your love may be dealing with some or all of the issues listed above.

As mysterious, charming, loving, and caring as you think your love is, there could be a few deep issues that will need unconditional, non-judgmental, and open-hearted discussion and sorting very early on in your relationship. I am not saying you do not have any issues and are totally perfect healthwise and otherwise. Your love has to understand you and act accordingly as well. It’s always ‘give and take’ in a relationship. I am aware of that.

So, do you think you can do this? Do you think you have what it takes to end up becoming one of the very few in your love’s life to have understood your love well enough to make your love’s life bearably smooth sailing? Believe it or not, your love has been misunderstood countless times by countless people in the past. It’s become a way of life for your love since a very long time ago. So you may need the power of “Thor’s hammer” to really break into your love’s heart. Are you up for it? Can your love for your love endure all the ups and downs in each other’s characters? Do you have the courage to take this up if it turns out to be the biggest project of your life?

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