How To Reconcile With Spouse After Separation (How To Reconcile Your Marriage After A Separation)

After a long and hard argument with your spouse, it can feel like all of the energy has been drained right out of you. When you know somebody as intimately as you do your husband or wife, you really know how to push each others' buttons.

Of course, fighting just once in a while is nothing to be concerned about. In fact, arguing can actually be a healthy safety mechanism for a marriage, allowing the couple to blow off some steam and get their issues out in the open.

However, when the fights become too frequent and never seem to really be over, many couples decide one day that they have had enough. They may choose to get a divorce - or to at least to get separated. Or, maybe they just decide to "turn off" emotionally and become emotionally distant to each other.

Even during these tough times, however, one or both of the spouses may know in their hearts that they still love each other. At those times, they may wonder whether the marriage may indeed be worth fighting for. And, even if it is, how will they find the strength to find resolution to their ongoing problems?

If you are having marital problems or are separated, here are 5 reasons to reconcile a marriage:

1. Divorce is costly:

From a financial standpoint, divorce is financially costly. In many cases, it easily costs tens of thousands of dollars. And, if the battle turns ugly, one or both of you may lose valued possessions to the other person along the way.

2. Dating is a pain:

Even if you do get a divorce, at some point you will probably want to meet another person. Remember what dating is like? Sure, there are some fun moments, but to get to those requires a whole lot of work - and money.

3. The same types of problems you have now will likely resurface in new relationships:

Many people fantasize about getting away from their spouse because they believe that they can escape those personal issues that plague the marriage. This is almost never true, however. In fact, since most of us tend to create our own problems in our marriages, it is often the case that these same problems will surface with our next mate.

4. There was a good reason why you married this person:

Think back to when you fell in love with your spouse. There was a real, valid reason why the two of you fell in love. You saw something in each other that you do not find every day. There may be a way to get back to that special place again with him or her.

5. It can be a sad thing when you let love die if you could have given it another chance:

If you do go through with a divorce, there may come a day when you look back with sadness on what might have been, had both of you been willing to give things another try.

Consider these 5 reasons to reconcile your marriage.

How To Reconcile Your Marriage After Separation

In the USA alone, roughly 2.4 million people per year are party to a divorce. Of those 2.4 million people about 83% think that they have acted rashly and foolish. They still love their spouse and if they could do it all over again the separation would never have happened. Instead, they would have done all possible to save the marriage relationship.

Once a divorce becomes absolute it will be more difficult to get back together, but not totally impossible. Most of us have heard about couples remarrying the person they were married with before.

In reality, the perfect time to reconcile and save your marriage is preferably before any separation, but if that has already taken place, after the separation but before the divorce is final. This gives the parties quite a bit of time to discuss and work out a return if that is desirable by both.

So, you are one of the 83% of people who would like to give it a go and see if you can get your spouse back and save your marriage? To accomplish this without any danger of making serious mistakes and losing out altogether you must have a plan.

That plan is made up of different components and you must educate yourself before making your moves. In this article we will focus on only one facet of the process and that means that we will start at the beginning. Other aspects will be outlined in further articles.

The first thing to do is to go through your mind and pinpoint the most important misunderstanding or mix-up with your spouse that caused the separation; was it just one thing or was it because you neglected your spouse over a long period of time. Start writing your thoughts on a piece of paper. What tendency I have is the one that bothered your spouse the most, which one was second and try to write down every bad or unpleasant routine you have that your spouse did not like about you. Once you have completed this list take some time and give special attention to each item. Think about how you can change this annoyance and more importantly, if it involves making a compromise, are ready to make it?

Secondly, you will make another list writing down the flaws that bothered you most about your separated spouse. Imagine in your mind what your spouse needs to do to change these irritations. Will your spouse be willing to make the needed compromises? If you feel that the answer to that question is positive you have a good base to start from.

With this information at hand you will have a clear idea where you will have to focus if you want a positive outcome, get your spouse back and save your marriage.

It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?

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