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How to move on after your best friend leaves you

If you've been through a breakup, or even just had a friendship end, it can feel like your whole world is falling apart.

By Courtanae HeslopPublished 2 years ago 5 min read

If you've been through a breakup, or even just had a friendship end, it can feel like your whole world is falling apart. The upside is that you've got plenty of time to move on from the person in question, which is good because otherwise it might seem like there's no way out.

After being best friends for years, you finally say a passionate "yes" to him. You've been on this path together, but now you have to find a new one.

If your relationship has ended and you are trying to move on, it's important that you don't just get up in the morning and go about your day as if nothing happened. There is no magic number of days or weeks that one should wait before they begin dating again--but if they do not give themselves time to heal emotionally and mentally after their breakup, they will almost certainly repeat the same mistakes that led them into their last relationship (or worse).

It's possible your relationship could have been more than just friendship.

As you're trying to move on from your friend's departure, it's important to know that it's possible your relationship could have been more than just friendship. If you and your friend were so close that they left you a note, then maybe they knew something was missing in their life. Maybe they were looking for more of a connection with someone else and wanted out because they thought the two of you could never be anything more than friends. If this is the case, then it would be best to find out if there was anything going on between the two of them before moving forward with your own life. It may hurt at first—but if there was something worth pursuing, then it's better to know now rather than later!

If not...well...that's also okay! Even though our best friends can sometimes be some kind of soulmates (even if we meet them online), we all need different kinds of relationships in order for us as individuals not only survive but thrive throughout our lives together here on Earth (and beyond). We can't expect one-size fits all when we're talking about love relationships - so don't sweat it too much if this doesn't work out exactly how either party hoped when initially meeting each other through being matched up based on similar interests or hobbies shared across social media platforms like Facebook or Twitter .

Use the anger you feel right now to make sense of the situation and sort through your feelings.

It's normal to feel angry when you experience a break up. You're probably angry with the person who left you, but perhaps also frustrated and confused by your feelings. An important part of moving on is using your anger constructively, so it doesn't cause more problems than it solves.

When someone leaves us, we often feel like we have no power over our situation at all—and that sense of helplessness can make us feel even angrier than we would otherwise be if there were some way to get back at them or turn things around somehow. It's important to recognize this feeling for what it is: a natural reaction to being rejected or abandoned by someone close to us. By accepting our feelings as justified (even though they may not actually be justified in the eyes of others), then taking steps towards making ourselves happy again, we'll eventually find ourselves moving beyond the anger stage in our grieving process and into acceptance and closure.

Focusing on the positive things about your friend can help.

The best way to move on is to focus on the positive things about your friend, rather than dwelling on their absence.

For example, you may be able to see that the friendship has taught you a lot about yourself and helped you become a better person. You can use those lessons as motivation for moving forward with your life.

Another option is to remember all of the great times that you had together, whether it was going out for ice cream or spending time at home watching movies together. The memories will help remind you why this friendship was important in the first place and can provide hope that there are more great experiences ahead of us

Remember that you'll be happy again soon.

Remember that you have a lot of other friends, and that they will help you through this tough time. Remember that your family loves you very much and they are there for support as well. You may want to take up a new hobby or pursuit to help fill your time. Remember that there are lots of things in life worth getting excited about, so don't forget about them!

Remembering these things will help remind yourself that the pain is temporary, and soon enough it won't matter anymore.

If you want to chase after him, think about how it will affect your relationships with other people, including your parents and your friends who may not understand what happened.

  • Are you ready to chase after him?
  • If so, think about how it will affect your relationships with other people, including your parents and your friends who may not understand what happened.

If you are going to go chasing after him, here are some things to consider:

  • Think about the consequences of your actions. Chasing after him may be a way of dealing with the betrayal but it might also be an excuse for getting out of school or work because you would rather feel sorry for yourself than do something productive. And if you want to talk about what happened between the two of them, then remind yourself that doing so could cause problems for other people involved in their friendship group like mutual friends or even worse family members (this is especially true if there were any bad feelings in the first place). This is why I always say "think before we act!"

You may feel like moving on, but don't rush into any decisions. Time is better spent figuring out what's best for YOU!

When a friend leaves, it's natural for you to want to move on. However, before making any decisions about what to do in the future, take some time for yourself and figure out what's best for YOU.

Don't rush into any decisions or let other people influence your decision. Keep in mind that everyone is going through this process at their own pace — don't make things harder by rushing into a relationship before you're ready!

Also remember that your emotions will be all over the place during this time period. While it may seem like a good idea at the beginning of a new relationship (or even while thinking about having one), keep in mind that feelings can change quickly when they are not based on reality or logic. Sometimes moving too fast will lead us down paths we don't want to go down! So always try not let your feelings cloud your judgement."

Conclusion

When you're sad and confused, it's easy to feel like moving on and finding someone new will help. But don't rush into any decisions. Moving on is a process that takes time, and you should use this time wisely by focusing on yourself!

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Courtanae Heslop

Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.

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