How to Find Your Favorite Health Lifeline

If you've ever been in an emergency, the first thing you were told was to take a deep breath, then count 1 to 10 to recollect your thoughts, and you access the situation.

Then you check for immediate danger, stop any bleeding, or give CPR before 911 arrives at the scene.

The thing is that you are asked to first take care of your own emotions before taking care of the victim. Because if you can't get yourself calm, you won't be able to access the situation properly, and that could put the victim in further danger.

But what if the emergency isn't a life-threatening situation? What happens if it's a case of stress or depression, or anxiety?

How do you prepare yourself to control your emotion when faced with a challenging life experience? How do your train your mind to stay calm?

I remember when my brother had psychotic depression. I was confused and scared out of my mind.

He seemed fine that day. We cooked and ate together. Then he left to go see his friend who stays close by.

About an hour later, he returned home and locked himself in his room.

Then I started hearing lovely words as if I was praying. At first, I didn't take it seriously until my daughter pointed out to me that she was crying and saying funny things.

She was delirious, everything she said, and she pointed at scared me. I was freaked out. I didn't know what to do.

My daughter was braver than me that day. She grabbed my phone and asked me to call for help.

Meanwhile, my brother was acting crazy, walking around the house with a wooden baseball bat, hitting and smashing anything that caught his eye.

When our neighbors finally arrived, my brother shooed them away with the baseball bat. He was the third person I called who had the courage to come over and tie him up with rope before our doctor arrived.

His psychosis was triggered by a drug overdose. The next day, he told us that he had smoked cannabis and drank two glasses of gin. But he wasn't able to finish the second glass and ran home when he started seeing strange faces chasing him.

I still shudder when I remember that terrible day. Situations like this can throw you off balance. You blackout and freeze from shock.

If you can train your mind to stay calm during unexpected circumstances, you will always find a way out of any difficulty.

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The secret to find peace of mind and inner calm

We all face different pressures in life that require us to stay calm and focused. Our close loved ones might get very sick and die, or we get injured - physically or mentally.

It could be a loss of a job when we needed the money the most, or we lose a lot of money in wrong investment.

We have no control over what happens in our life. But tragedies will happen for sure. How you choose to respond in those moments is what matters most.

So when you are put in a situation that creates pressure or anxiety, here are some steps to train your mind to stay calm and focused.

Master the art of box breathing

Box breathing, also known as four-square breathing, is a form of deep yoga breathing used by the United States Navy Seals and stressed-out people everywhere.

The biggest benefit of box breathing is relaxation, especially in times of stress. It is extremely easy to practice. Simply relax your body and do the following:

Take a deep breath into your nose. Focus on breathing into your stomach. Then full exhale the air out of your body.

You focus on breathing for 4 seconds, you hold your breath for 4 seconds, and your breath out for 4 seconds. You can do this two or three times until you feel calmer in your body.

By breathing into your nose, you increase the nitric oxide level in your bloodstream. This increases your blood flow and lowers your blood pressure.

You can practice it virtually anywhere and anytime - when you're showering, watching tv, or even working. If you practice for at least 10 minutes every day, it can become your favorite meditation routine.

Declutter your daily life

Most of us live and breathe stress every day - from attending to a sick dependent relative, caring for our children to excess workload in the office.

It's easy to mix up irrelevant activities like frequent social activities, watching tv shows, and other unproductive activities into important daily responsibilities.

However, in order to become calmer, we should learn how to do fewer things every day. You don't have to fix everything happening in your life in one day.

As much as productivity is important to living an industrious life, you must also practice moderation.

By doing less, you are also talking less and doing the essentials. The bigger advantage of 'doing less' besides tranquility is that we become for efficient and do any job better.

Train your mind to believe everything has an end

Most of our worries are caused by the fear of death. You should always keep in mind that life is going to end someday. No one lives for every no matter how protective you guide your life.

Remembering that life is but a fleeting moment is the ultimate acceptance that the changing nature of the universe also means the decay and vanishing of ourselves.

We must keep in mind how fast things pass by. We can be incredibly happy one minute, and the next, it could be something completely different.

The fact that everything is in flux can be a source of anxiety because nothing is stable, and eventually, we will be separated from our possessions and loved ones.

But it can also be a source of peace. Realizing that everything is temporary means there is no point in holding on to the good times and having a strong aversion to the bad times.

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Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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