How To Deal with Bromancers

As I write these words, the dating world gets more confusing by the minute. At times I myself think about throwing in the towel, but then I remember that that goes against everything I believe about love. It’s simple: Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, either way, you are right. This mindset is especially important when it comes to finding love.

Then, there were bromancers. Bromance in the dictionary is defined as a close, nonsexual friendship between men. Bromancers are not gay, mind you (not that there is anything wrong with that), but they are men that have chosen to put their male friendships above having a real relationship with a woman.

Naturally, you would think that all the bromancers are men that have been divorced and lost half their assets, had their hearts broken, or basically gotten burned so badly by a woman as to never want to go there again. But, you would be wrong. Bromancers are everywhere these days.

Here’s what to do.

For Women

1. Learn how to spot one.

The quicker you can spot a bromancer, the faster you can GTFO! Seriously. Bromancers are men that are always busy with their guy friends, which leaves very little time for you. They eat with them, travel with them, and share their lives with them. What are you there for? Oh, right, they need sex occasionally. Girl, don’t go there and get out now.

2. Do give him some space.

If your man is not a bromancer, you should be allowing him guy time and/or some space for himself. It’s unnatural to spend every moment of your life with another person and it reeks of co-dependancy. If you find yourself balking please, go get yourself a life. One that doesn’t revolve around a man.

3. Make yourself a priority.

The whole issue I have with bromancers is that the woman is somehow not their priority. Make yourself a priority. You don’t need anyone’s permission to do this. If you’re not happy the good news is that it’s not too late to go and make yourself happy.

For Men

1. Become self-aware.

If the above describes you, then you are in a bromance. If you’re totally fine with growing old by yourself, sans a real partner, then embrace it. Or…

2. Get some help.

So maybe you had the nastiest divorce on the planet and you think you’ll never go there again and that all women are evil. Stop yourself right there. What you need is some help in order to heal and move on to the next phase of your life. It’s totally normal and you should never feel ashamed in asking for help. Psychologists exist for a reason.

3. Let her know.

If you see yourself forever vacationing with only men, then for heaven’s sake, please let her know. If you’re honest and she’s still down with whatever fun, then it’s all good!

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