Her Success is your Success

I lived on both sides of the coin when comes to building relationships that fail due to financial infidelity. I have seen my sisters play the role of the breadwinner and have their dreams demolished by a complete knucklehead. I have personally supported an ungrateful woman, to whom I supported and carried through school, to have her choose which she thought was a better man after she was established in her career. I appreciate the story of Judge Lynn Toler because not only it is a story we all could learn from, but it is also on the success level that most pay attention to and cannot debate. The summary of their story was that her marriage with her husband was supportive and comfortable in himself to have take a sacrifice in his business, for her success to blossom. For the complete details of their story, please look it up.

Now there are two points that break out this story and I will try to stay gender free, but the title is what it is. The most disappointing thing anyone could every do is support someone in any form, and as a result, that person just piss in the supporter's face. Yellow, rotten piss at that! I mean think about the amount of trust that was placed in a person to let them know the dreams and ambitions of the supporter, and place those dreams on hold so that their partner may excel in life. It should be a law of deception and should be punishable by way of imprisonment. This is a level of disappointment that some never recovers from. Now I am not talking about "Lying Leon" who may be looking for a place to live. I can only speak from the people I know and what I personally experienced from my previous marriage. However, the results of betrayal has a dismantling toll on the mental and physical presence of a person.

Look, if a person is in school and working on his or her career and there is someone providing support, should not this person be a part of the plan when completion of school and the big job has landed? This is not the time to be selfish or even competitive to the person who help during the process. Unfortunately, this happens more than it should and should never happen at all. However, lets focus on the success story and talk about the positive fruits when a woman understands the assignment of a supportive man.

Now Judge Toler truly received a gift when she married her husband. He recently passed away and there is something we all can take away from their marriage. She understood the concept of marriage and the concept of teamwork. Many women today want to be in the light and want to be upfront and noticed. There is nothing wrong with this at all. Even if a man did not help with her personal development, can the humility of Judge Lynn Toler be displayed and have the understanding of "my success, is his success"? I wish there were more examples of this and even though the numbers are on the low side with women understanding this type of assignment; these examples should give us hope.

Yes, it is a two-sided coin and we all have to do our part. I know that most women say that it takes a special man to bring that out of me, which is in Judge Toler. Let me say this! If a car is on the lot for sale, that car has all the features and qualities and those attributes don't change for anyone. This car will always have cruise control and all the bells and tricks. Those vehicles are made for certain drivers, with certain mentalities and appreciation for those types of vehicles. A vehicle that has a manual transmission requires a driver with knowledge to operate a manual transmission. Some women let men drive with no experience or knowledge at all and these idiots be burning up transmissions. Taking some women through hell and back! Now don't approach this from a material mindset, but look at this from what kind of capable men and what mentality are women looking for in men and why are they letting them drive if they are unqualified?