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He Broke My Heart But I Still Love Him (He Broke My Heart But I Want Him Back)

Alright, so you're saying he broke my heart but I still love him, and you're hurting. It does hurt, I know that. You're feeling like your world is falling apart. You're wondering how you're ever going to be able to live without him again. If you're in a situation where you're saying he broke my heart but I want him back, then this might be the most important thing you've ever read.

By Fatima MaciPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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He Broke My Heart But I Still Love Him (He Broke My Heart But I Want Him Back)
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Granted that he caused you great pain and heartbreak, but you have found that you still love him and want him back. There are ways in which you can communicate your forgiveness and make him want to return to you as much in love with you as before! These tips will help you get him back.

Forget what he did and forgive him completely

Even if he hurt you by falling for another girl and dumping you, you can see that the new love affair did not last for long and you definitely have a good chance of winning him back. First and foremost, you should try to forget the hurt and pain and forgive him for being so callous with you.

Don't refer to the past

If you meet up with him don't let him see that you remember the past! If he notices you looking like you would like to have revenge or talk to him like you have not forgiven him, then he would not like to be in your company because you will only serve to make him feel guilty. However, let him know that you have decided to let bygones be bygones.

Be friendly and charming towards him

Don't be stiff and formal around him. Instead, be as friendly and charming as possible so that it puts him at ease and makes him really comfortable to be in your company again. If you help him to erase all guilt feelings towards you, he will be able to respond to your renewed interest and attraction in him.

Be willing to trust him again

Don't constantly be on your guard when you are with him because it will show in your behavior and attitudes. He will instinctively know if you trust him or not. Be willing to give him another chance and be as trusting and loving towards him so that he will feel that you have accepted him as he is and are willing to make a go of it this time around!

Ask him for help to show him that you trust him

Don't be too aloof and cold towards him. Asking him to lend you a hand with something or the other will show him that you have forgotten the past and are willing to trust him again. Do your best to attract him and look very sexy and appealing. He is bound to respond to your with his whole heart and soul.

Show him that you won't reject him

Even if he does have feelings for you and wants to get back to you, he might hesitate to pursue you all over again because of the way he dumped you in the past. He is afraid and insecure and feels that you will reject his advances if he tries to approach you. This is why you should let him know that you are not averse to making up with him.

Coax him gently and lovingly to come back

Don't rush things and take your time to get him back. Reignite the passion and the flames of desire so that you will be able to coax him gently into a relationship with you. You will have to time it right - too soon will not allow healing and too late might make you lose him altogether!

10 Things to Avoid If You Want to Get Your Ex Back!

Most of us make typical mistakes after breaking up and it just makes the situation worse. Doing them will greatly diminish any chance of getting your ex back. These post breakup mistakes usually happen in the first 72 hours and they do maximum damage. So, if you want to get your ex back, it's best to avoid these mistakes or else you'll end up alienating your ex even more:

1. Avoid passing allegations or calling him names. Don't get into a fight come what may since that only makes make things bitter and reconciliation will be the last thing on your ex's mind.

2. Don't use guilt or emotional blackmail to get your ex back. Using this tactic might make him stay for a while but it won't last. Sooner or later, your ex will walk away. He might even resent your laying it thick on him! So, this is a complete no-no.

3. Try not to convince yourself or your ex that you've changed and things will be different from now on. People don't change overnight and your ex knows this. He will see through this and won't believe you.

4. Don't analyze the situation or use logic to persuade your ex to come back. Remember, love is about emotions and feelings, not logical explanations. Your best chance of getting your ex back is to rely on emotion and mutual attraction.

5. Come what may never lose your dignity by begging your ex to stay or return to you! Not only will he lose respect for you, worst of all, you'll fall in your own eyes. And your self-esteem which has probably already hit rock bottom will take another hit.

6. Don't declare your love for your ex. As far as he is concerned, that's irrelevant! The decision to separate is based on his feelings, not yours.

7. Don't use the sympathy angle with your ex. Showing how bad you've taken the breakup and how depressed you are won't work. Sure, it might make your ex get soft on you for a while. But sympathy won't keep him by your side. If he senses that you're using the 'poor me' approach as a ploy then you've had it! It's a sure shot way to make anyone switch off!

8. Avoid reaching out to your ex's family or friends. They might think you're the best thing that's happened to him and try to convince your ex to give it another shot. Even if he gives in to the pressure and stays on, it won't last. The desire to stay has to come from within...

9. Another big mistake is to try to win your ex's heart over with flowers and gifts. Even if he accepts them, it won't change the situation. Remember, gifts are for wooing, not manipulating! And your ex will see through your motive and 'generosity'.

10. Don't try to pressurize your ex into coming back by reminding him how good things used to be and can still be. The more you push your ex, the more he will pull away from you. And that's not what you want!

Chances are that you've already tried doing some of these things. It is a natural, instinctive reaction but it will not help you to get your ex back. Most people make these classic mistakes right after a break up. Don't worry. What's done is done. Just don't add to the damage! Don't ruin your chance of getting your ex back completely. No matter how tempting or natural the above mistakes seem, don't fall into the trap. These are destructive behavior patterns most people take resort to. Whereas you need to take constructive steps if you want to get your ex back.

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