Don't reject people you don't like when you meet them

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There's a saying that goes, "It's hard to please a crowd."

No matter how good the chef is, he can't satisfy all the customers. Let's say a customer from the north doesn't like southern dishes; a customer from Sichuan likes chili and doesn't like sweet dishes.

People in the workplace, will meet all kinds of colleagues, it is not you can influence. Therefore, it is not surprising to meet people you do not like.

According to the principle of "things gather in groups, people are divided into groups", we will naturally approach those who like, and alienate those who do not like. But the workplace is not like society, the specific colleagues to deal with, you have to obey the arrangements, rather than by your nature.

In order to work, you have to bow down, meet people you do not like, do not reject, to learn to accept.

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First, treat each other with courtesy, do not reveal their "disgust".

Montesquieu said: "Politeness makes polite people happy, and also makes those who are treated politely by others happy."

Treat people with courtesy, is not to spend a penny on things, but can close the distance between people, at least will not make each other very disgusted, and therefore produce a gap.

In the workplace, many conflicts, not the work is very tricky, the mutual competition caused by each other, but usually used to cold words, resulting in a build-up of resentment.

During the Warring States period, Xie Zi, a scholar of Mohism, came from far away to Qin to see King Hui of Qin.

King Hui of Qin gave him a scowl. So Xie Zi left.

Before that, King Hui of Qin talked with Tang Guguo of the Mohists about Xie Zi. Tang Guguo was jealous of Xie Zi's talent, so he said that Xie Zi was a man who could talk and had a sinister heart, and that it was not the king of Qin but the prince who really wanted to flatter him.

Because of one side of the story, King Hui of Qin made a mistake in recognizing people.

The statesman Lu Buwei commented on this incident, "Not to take the good for the harcourt, but in vain to take the young master for the paradox, King Hui lost so as to listen."

A person who does not see people with kindness will close his eyes, wisdom, and ears, and his body will age, thus losing his judgment.

When we are in the workplace, if we have no more manners and show dislike to others, then the other party will also hate you and lose manners as well. This is the result of evil thoughts spreading in a unit, constantly.

Getting along with people is actually the practice of "using people as a mirror". When you see an annoying face, you are actually seeing your own face.

Insist on treating people with courtesy, there is a chance to make up with each other later, or at least leave yourself a way back; it is a professionalism.

Politeness, like a sponge, can absorb the surrounding water; smile is like a ray of spring wind, reflecting their own pattern.

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Second, look at people's strengths and find ways to cover up other people's "weaknesses".

As the saying goes: "The foot is short, the inch is long."

You do not like the person, but by another person like; the unit does not need the person, to another unit, it is mixed in like a fish in water. What is the reason for this? It's not that others have great skills, but that they have met the "bole".

There are also annoying things about horses. For example, a very old horse is not as old as it used to be, and he will be out of breath when he takes a few steps.

By looking at people on their own merits, and identifying them with a "dynamic eye," you will find the good in others, and give yourself a way back in your own social life.

In "The Spring and Autumn Annals of Lu", it is written that Duke Huan of Qi, the first of the Five Hegemons of the Spring and Autumn Period, invited his ministers Guan Zhong, Bao Shu and Ning Qi to drink. When he was enjoying himself, Bao Shu stood up and said, "Lord Huan must not forget the days when he was in exile; Guan Zhong must not forget his imprisonment in Lu; Ning Qi must not forget his life as a cattle herder."

Duke Huan of Qi said, "Because of this, the state of Qi will not perish."

Before Qi's hegemony, Duke Huan of Qi was in exile, without status, and later returned to his country to inherit the position of king, and was stopped halfway by Guan Zhong, and shot arrows to hurt him; Ning Qi sang a sad song, drove cattle, and came to Qi from Wei, and had a miserable life.

When all is said and done, who does not have unspeakable bitterness, how can there be no fault between people? But we are gathered together, is a team, to share the pain and sufferings, the past will not be blamed

If you do not like this colleague, hate that colleague, then who else can you work with? When you are in trouble, who will help you? I'm afraid that everything you do, others will be cold.

After discovering the strengths of others, you will not hate others, and you give "praise", seems invaluable.

It is best to laugh away the grudge; laugh at life's past.

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Third, adjust the emotions, peace of mind to the workplace.

In the workplace, we often encounter such things: puffed up to do something, the more you do, the more uncomfortable, a hand, but the work screwed up.

Let's say you have to do a data table, work on the computer for half a day, because of angry, a throw keyboard, the computer black screen. Everything has to start all over again.

To look at someone else's displeasure is to make things difficult for yourself. Your emotions, others will not understand, just look at the joke.

You have to understand one thing: whoever enters the workplace, not for fun, but to make money and support the family. The open and dark struggle is objective, but the overall goal is the same.

You put a lot of energy into the people you don't like, and have less time to care for yourself and less time to have fun working. This is putting the cart before the horse.

Napoleon said, "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take a city."

In the workplace as a manager, the most important thing is to manage people. You, yourself, are in the scope of being managed, don't live yourself as an alternative.

Put another way, the fact that you have emotions, and like who, has nothing to do with it. This is simply your own internal conflict.

It's not easy for everyone to make money, and it's more practical to give a hand than to glare.

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The smaller a person's heart, the more broken things.

Many people think that when you meet someone you don't like, it's good to keep your distance. However, a unit on the people, low head to see, how can keep a distance?

After all, a lot of work, there are several people need to cooperate, will also involve all aspects.

Instead of insisting on one's own views, it is better to converge their ideas and listen more to everyone's suggestions. Able to use the strengths of others, bring together the wisdom of the group, you are the real high people.

Meet a lot of people who do not like, that you are not good enough, that's all.

From now on, relax and tolerate anyone.