Don’t Forget to Stay a Life Partner Once You Become a Parent!

Don't forget to remain, life partners, once you become a parent: from the birth of the baby to the flight of the young man from the nest, the role of a parent tends to dominate your family life.

From lovers, from husband and wife, you become a mother and a father, and sometimes the relationship between you becomes too superficial, focused on the needs of the child and the daily responsibilities and less on your emotional needs.

Parents focus only on the child, too often forgetting the importance of the relationship between them: the child requires so much time and so much attention that life partners can no longer find resources for each other.

But what parents and life partners should never forget is that for a happy family and a happy child, the relationship between spouses must be a happy one! Dedicating time to each other, without children, will not make careless parents at all: it will make you happy partners and therefore happy parents!

Be parents and life partners! Remember that before you became a mother and father, you were husband and wife! You have decided to form a couple and at some point, a family.

But the basis of the family is primarily the relationship between the two of you, which needs to be cherished and cared for. If you want to give your little one happy childhood and a united family, you must not forget your primary roles: husband and wife, life partners - which unites them much more than the child.

It is natural for a parent to devote much of his time and attention to his child, especially in the first years of his life. But to do this at the cost of the relationship between you? The whole family, the appearance of the child, radically changes your life together and changes your list of priorities. The child becomes the priority - but in no case is she alone!

Don't forget that your life partner needs you too, don't forget to dedicate time and attention to your partner as well; as a mother, you can completely forget that you are also a wife, your girlfriend, you can focus so much on the new role, dedicate your body and soul to the little one, still neglect your partner.

As a father, the same can happen: the new role, added to the professional pressures, can make you a careless husband and boyfriend, who forgets about his life partner. You strive so hard to be the best parents that you slowly become the worst life partners!

When the child is the only priority in your life together, there is emotional distance between you as life partners. As a parent, you can do a "good job" - but what about your intimate relationship?

Remember that the relationship between the parents is an essential factor for a truly happy family. You don't have to be just a mom and dad, the baby needs to see that you are a happy partner with a healthy relationship. Therefore, even if the child becomes a priority, the relationship of the partners should never be left in the shadows.

Don't forget what united you in the beginning. Not the child and his needs - but the love and compatibility between you and the fact that each has found in the other the fulfillment of his emotional needs. What happens if, with the appearance of the child, you forget about the needs of the partner, being too preoccupied with those of the child?

The relationship cools down, it changes: the partners no longer see each other as lovers, as spouses, but as the little one's parents; they go from meeting each other's needs to meeting each other's needs. Emotional distress is a major evil for any relationship: if you no longer find in your life partner the fulfillment of your emotional needs (affection, appreciation, attention, intimacy), then the basis of the whole relationship disappears.

Therefore, no matter how long a child asks, finding moments dedicated exclusively to his life partner is the only way to take care of and maintain a healthy relationship.

How can you be a parent and a life partner? How can you keep your relationship alive with the appearance of a child? Not to mention the new roles of mother and father to dominate your whole family life. Does it seem impossible?

Not so - the little things do a lot for the couple. A few hours together in intimacy, while the child sleeps or is cared for by someone else, hours in which, despite exhaustion, you spend time together, share what you are experiencing, and try to look at yourself again as a lover, as a husband and wife. Staying united as partners also requires maintaining those gestures that convey affection: why move away from each other when the child is with you? Why not kiss and hug in front of the little one?

He will grow up seeing two happy partners together, he will grow up seeing what a healthy couple relationship means!

Perhaps the hardest part of being both parents and life partners is that you are too often simply exhausted, so making small gestures of affection or finding little time in two seems like a superhuman effort.

Exhaustion will also make you extremely irritable, so often, instead of reconnecting and getting closer, you jump on each other's throats for random reasons, "you forgot to", "you don't appreciate my work", "only I do" "); you put stress on each other instead of trying to fight it together.

So the relationship not only becomes a distance, but it also becomes full of resentments. Instead of being united partners, become opponents, instead of fulfilling each other's emotional needs, attack each other, thinking only of your own needs and dissatisfaction.

What you need to do to be a parent and a life partner, to keep your relationship from getting cold or sour: don't forget why you originally became a husband and wife; do not forget that not only the child needs a parent; and the wife needs her husband, the husband needs his wife.

A gesture and a word of affection, the interest given to the other, an hour of intimacy and the effort (which is not so impossible) not to pour frustration on the partner, but to appreciate that he is with you, the effort to make a small change in behavior, to stay close and united…