Don’t Buy The Lemon

Love is a funny thing. We think we know exactly what we are doing until we realize we don’t. You know, you meet a guy/girl and they seem so perfect. Until the “honeymoon” phase is over and then you realized “what was I thinking”. Some of us are lucky enough to not constantly go through the roller coaster of settling for the face value of a partner. This is for those that are wondering “why do I keep dating losers”?

If you stop buying the Lemon you can avoid this rollercoaster. Imagine you are looking for a car. So you go to the dealership and they show you a vehicle that looks nice. You get in the car and take it for a test drive. While you’re driving you notice a lot of deal breakers for you. You know exactly what matters to you in a vehicle. Not the superficial things. You are noticing the major problems. Things that you know you won’t be able to come to compromise about. So after your test drive you tell the dealership you don’t think this car is for you. Now you have a choice to make. You can either shop around for another vehicle or you can say “Maybe I can fix it”. You might even tell yourself this is the nicest car you’ve ever seen and you’ll just get over the major issues. Better yet, the dealer starts to tell you reasons you should compromise and drive off in this car.

I bet you’re reading that and saying to yourself that you wouldn’t buy the car. You would just look for something else. I hope that is the thought you have arrived at. Now, why don’t you do this in your love life? You meet someone and they are attractive. You go on the first date (test drive) and you find out they are self centered during the entire night. Lets say for you this is a major No! Most of us will continue to date the person searching for reason to keep seeing this person. Or we don’t even test drive. We just drive off the lot at full speed. You would not buy a car with electrical issues. So why do you continue to date a person with personality issues. When I say personality issues, I’m referring to characteristics that you are not interested in. Some may even let their friends (car dealer) convince them as to why they should continue dating this person. Don’t convince yourself this is the nicest car. Have you ever noticed how many cars are on a car lot. Trust me, you will find another. So instead of settling for the lemon. Be patient enough to drive off in a vehicle worth keeping.