Counting, is the beginning of trouble

　An elder told this story.

　　There was a man who was very lucky to get a large and beautiful pearl, but he was not satisfied because there was a small spot on the pearl. He thought that if he could remove this small spot, then it would become the most precious treasure in the world. So, he cut away the surface layer of the pearl, but the spot was still there; he cut away another layer and another layer, until finally, the spot was gone, and the pearl no longer existed.

　　We usually calculate on the right and wrong things, the number of reasons, the thickness of feelings, in the eyes of the wise, this is very ridiculous. There is a lyric called "too many people are easy to grow old", but I think "the more you count, the more you lose".

　　My friend is new to society and found a good job. One day, she and her colleague were talking when a colleague who joined the company later than her asked her how much her monthly salary was, and when they compared, she found out that her monthly salary was 1000 yuan less than her colleague. "That colleague joined the company later than me, and her work ability is not as good as mine, but her monthly salary is higher than mine! That's outrageous!" She said angrily, and from then on she lost her happy mood at work. She had a feeling of defeat, and even the sense of accomplishment and solidity that came from doing her best to achieve her goal was abandoned. The $1,000 took away her self-esteem, her inner peace, and her joy of self-sufficiency. Nothing has changed because she feels she has "less" than others.

　　We spend our days wondering if we have "enough" and ignore the joy that you really need inside. On the contrary, if we untie this knot, we may live a more relaxed and free life.

　　People who are wise in life will do nothing, only count on what is most important to them, and know what to count on and what not to count on at what age, and have the freedom to give and take.

　　At the age of 10, you should stop counting the amount of pocket money given by your family, and not compare with other children to wear designer clothes. If the family is difficult, the poor children early to become a family, this age of children should already know that parents earn money is not easy.

　　At the age of 20, they should no longer care about their family origin and their parents' occupation. When they are teenagers, they will compare their family background with other children, and it is common for them to be more official than their parents. But at the age of "weak", without the will to stand on their own feet, they will never make a living.

　　At the age of 30, has become a family, father and mother, with a few years of experience in family life, the husband should no longer care about his wife's appearance, know that virtuous than beauty is more important, the daughter-in-law will be more popular than the daughter-in-law will be dressed; wife should no longer care about her husband's height, understand that the ability to play a more important role than height, no ability to earn a living husband, even if he has grown into a man of two, it is better than selling biscuits Wu Dalang.

　　When you are 40 years old, you should stop caring about other people's comments, who likes to say what they say, how you want to live.

　　At the age of 50, it is time to stop taking into account the ubiquitous unfairness of things, no longer take into account the success of others on their own pressure, no longer covet the wealth of others. Half a hundred years, once the sea, read countless people, used to see the autumn and spring, no longer fuss, through the success and failure, no longer indignant.

　　At the age of 60, if the business, should no longer care about the big and small profits, money is inexhaustible, and then can spend is also limited, peace of mind is good for their own health; if politics, should no longer care about the official officials small, retired, the official officials are the same, have become retired old cadres; if the literary, when no longer care about the size of the literary name, the literary seat, after all, "no first, no second", as long as the mood is happy, there are feelings on the line.

　　At the age of 70, when people reach old age, they should no longer care about more things, and look at things more widely. When you are young to fight to the death of my things, now only a light smile, middle-aged to take extra care of things, now seems to be irrelevant, how many things in life, "are paid in a laugh".