"Convenience store in the World" : a person's real strength is never fit in

In life, many people sacrifice their principles in order to gain acceptance in a group.

Obviously like reading alone, but afraid of being isolated by friends, had to follow them to eat and drink.

Obviously decided to study after work, but worried about being excluded by colleagues, had to accompany them to drink and socialize.

Obviously enjoy single life, but for fear of being laughed at by others, had to force themselves to date again and again.

However, you wronged yourself, live up to the time, may not be able to walk into the world of others.

Keiko Furukura, the protagonist of Japanese writer Saayaka Murata's "Convenience Store," is obsessed with blending in with the people around her.

She tried to erase her personality and change the original way of life, but still could not be truly accepted by the outside world.

In fact, in order to fit in and fit in, and try to please the world, will lose themselves, and not for affirmation.

Keiko Furukura has been an outlier in the crowd since childhood.

She has little empathy, hates sentimentality, and doesn't care about ethereal rituals.

Her mind was inflexible, direct, and incapable of being controlled by emotions.

Her unusual calm and forthrightness made her friends think she was serious and old-fashioned, and her parents also suspected that she had psychological problems.

As a result, she was always careful when communicating with people, and even prepared a speech in advance.

She mimics other people's speech style and intonation and tries to appear cheerful and lively.

She and others use the same brand of goods to deliberately create a common theme.

But pretend to fit in, not to change the heart, but let yourself exhausted.

Until she took a part-time job at a convenience store and found that there was no need to think about other people's feelings all the time.

She took to the job like a duck to water and stuck with it for 18 years.

Personality is different, three views are different, after all, cannot strong harmony.

The so-called unsociable, does not mean that a person has done anything wrong, but everyone's life style is different, different values.

The same free time, some people used to read, rich knowledge; Some people like to watch TV series and gossip about stars.

Under the similar income level, some people buy things carefully and study the cost performance; Some people practice carpe diem and insist on buying big brands.

At the same age, some people want family stability and are already married and have children. Some pursue career success and bury their heads in work all day.

There is no absolute right way to live, as long as you are comfortable, it is the best life.

Never change yourself to please others, as the saying goes:

"Tetris tells us that if you fit in, you disappear."

Go along with the ideas of others, follow the rhythm of the outside world, and eventually become no more than everyone else.

At any time, enriching yourself is far more powerful than pleasing others

During her 18 years at the convenience store, Keiko lived a simple and comfortable life.

He lived in a small, clean room and ate his meals in the shop.

During her work, she was always energetic and the manager recognized her ability to work.

When she's not working, she exercises, gets some sleep and gets some nutrition.

She got along well with her colleagues and got back in touch with her old classmates.

But old age, only around her not married children, and peers gradually have nothing to say.

Friends and family also inquire about her life, urging her to find a man.

She did not want to fall in love, in order to blend into the group, found a jobless man as her boyfriend.

Her boyfriend is lazy, ambitious, often shout to her to drink, but also ask her for their debts.

But she endured the shameless of the other side, also failed to change the identity of the people around.

In the name of caring about her, people just ask for some privacy to satisfy their desire for gossip.

Her old classmates didn't care about a man's character, and her colleagues still excluded her from the circle.

Most of the time, what you think of as social, is not social.

Give up be fond of, sacrifice ego, cater to float on the surface of flourishing, can make a person more lonely only.

Instead of wasting time and energy, be yourself in quality alone time.

Yang Jiang was not good at communicating with others, so he seldom took part in social gatherings in the cultural circle and hid himself in his study to read and write.

Her translation of Don Quixote went on to sell millions of copies, and at the age of 102 she published The Collected Works of Yang Jiang.

Not used to public appearances, Ren rarely met with other entrepreneurs, media and journalists and devoted himself to his work.

Eventually, he turned huawei into a fortune 500 company.

Quality solitude is one of the best ways to add value.

Xu Qing once said:

"Knowing what you love, rather than obeying other people's expectations, keeps your soul alive."

Life is only a few decades, do not get along with the relationship need not force, do not stay in the circle need not squeeze.

Conformity of the lively such as fleeting clouds, deliberately can not solve the lonely, but only increase trouble.

Only by staying true to yourself can you be extraordinary and wonderful.

With her boyfriend, Keiko faced a new dilemma.

Her sister persuaded her to give up her part-time job and become a full-time homemaker like everyone else.

Her boyfriend's sister-in-law warned her to change a serious job, otherwise she would be laughed at.

Keiko was aware that he had been working in the convenience store, in the eyes of others is a very shameful thing.

She quit her job at the convenience store to avoid unwanted attention.

At her boyfriend's urging, she also went to an interview for a full-time job.

But she didn't feel happy and her days went by in a muddle.

One day, when she was walking by a convenience store, she couldn't help walking in and started laying out shelves to serve customers.

The shop assistants repeatedly praised her ability, according to her advice to work.

At that moment, Keiko finally understood that inner calm and satisfaction is more important than catering to external opinions.

She didn't want to suppress her true self any more, even if she was laughed at and alienated from others.

She turned down interviews, kicked out boyfriends, and decided to live the rest of her life to please herself.

Writer Tao Lixia said:

"Too many of the answers are not out there, but inside you. Sink into your loneliness and you will have a broad day."

Many people lose their energy in social interaction and lose themselves in the group.

But the world is its own and has nothing to do with others.

To break free from the shackles of the outside world and insist on independent thinking is the only way to achieve real growth.

Remember Tasha Dudo, named "one of the most desirable female characters"?

She was born into a noble family, but she was tired of society and longed for nature.

At 15, she dropped out of school and retired to the countryside.

Her parents blamed her for being a maverick and her friends mocked her as a "freak."

However, she was not swayed by others' comments. She raised chickens and sheep, grew fruits and vegetables, made clothes and daily necessities by hand, and insisted on living a simple farm life.

She has also created illustrations for more than 100 books based on rural life, small animals, flowers and plants, which are loved by readers.

Alone for most of her life, she never felt lonely, but also became their favorite appearance.

Life is a losing process, can accompany you to the end is never others, only yourself.

Don't try to fit in with the crowd and pretend to be something others like.

The best way to live is to do your best for the cause you love and stick to your ideal life.