Carrying Secrets

In life, people aren’t who they say they are. People pretend well. You think you know people, but you really don’t. Show yourself friendly but everyone isn’t your friend.

Its sad when people you think are you friends turn on you. It hurts because you trust these people with your secrets and they either keep the secrets or tell them. What hurts the most is when they tell your secrets. You have trusted the wrong person but you didn’t know it but things happen. It just goes to show that you cant trust everyone.

Family can be the same way. When you share your secrets with your family, they swear they will keep it but they tell it when the opportunity presents itself. It breaks your heart. You think, why did I tell them that.

“Why did I tell them that” can apply to any situation. Secret is more than just name of a deodorant. When you share something private with someone, it should stay that way. Unfortunately, people need something to talk about. They either laugh about it or use it against that person.

Relationships are hard as well. Its very hard to be in a relationship these days. People always say that there should be no secrets but you really cannot tell everything that you have ever done because that person may judge you. There are people who carry secrets to their grave because they get married and they don’t want to lose the person that they are with and although it sounds mean, I think its best to keep certain things to yourself.

I’m gonna hit hard on relationships. When you meet someone, you shouldn’t tell them your life story. That’s where you make your biggest mistake. When you do that, you are giving that person the wrong impression. This person may think, “if he/she is telling me all of this, then I don’t need to be talking to them.” You don’t tell the person how many people you have slept with because he/she is really going to be skeptical.

But once you are in a relationship, don’t give the person any reason not to trust you. If you lose that trust, its hard to re-gain it. Hiding a secret love is very damaging. That person will always have in the back of their mind if you are still fooling with that person or not. If that happens, its best to end the relationship.

And if they are skeptical as a boyfriend/girlfriend, then being a husband or wife is probably not in the equation. Their friends are probably in their ear, telling them, “man, I wouldn’t be with her, or the woman says “girl, I wouldn’t be fooling with him”. It happens more often than not.

A relationship is between two people. Not the world. Not moma or daddy. Your friends give you advice and there’s nothing wrong with that because sometimes it’s the proper advice. Your friends may have experienced the same thing and they know what’s right. But if they have never been through it, then they don’t know what to tell you.

There are so many 2-faced people in this world. They tell you one thing and then do something else. “Yeah, I’m your friend”. You can trust me. We hear that statement so many times and 75% of the time, it’s a 2-faced statement. Call me crazy, but I’m not wrong. It happens every day. It has happened to me plenty of times.

But to conclude I say this: As Harvey Watkins from the Canton Spirituals would say: Be careful of the things, that you say and do, and where you go.