Being Single: A Privilege or a Curse

Since a teenager some of us were told that once we reached a certain goal in our life we would find our soul mate and have babies. Well some of us had reached that goal, but some of us had paused for some reason on what was told into a myth.

As we got older, jobs became a norm until a potential career would excite us into getting into something that would benefit us which lead us into seeking fur education, which leads into college. As we take those steps into college, we some how wasn’t educated much on student loans, but feel it’s free money and we getting caught up on our bills and all, but getting getting the educated we need was worth it. So we thought.”

After graduating from college we begin to take what we studied to the next level, but not being told that what we were taught weren’t out there as much and we pretty much waisted our time, and money and now, we are working average jobs and not the jobs we went to school for. That becomes a big problem with our goal sets and mess up what we had in mind to the next level into getting out of the box and scramble for our life.

Being single, don‘t have time to date, nor the plan of having a family seem far off of what we expected and has jeopardized us in so many ways that it’s unreal. The hopes of achieving our goals, our plans, our life seem to be immediately put on hold for whatever reason. This become very irritating to some, but to the few it’s like a test of the wills of the accepting the things they can not change in life.

Reaching a certain age and still yearning for what we had intentions on seem to be dragging and it had been dragging for too long. That’s when we build hopelessness and doubt on things because we getting older and we are not were we had planned for ourselves. This leads resentment and worry leads into depression and our bodies start turning on us, alone. The loneliness drives us into something toxic, like drugs, drinking and everything else to get that hurt of disappointment out of us, because we felt we had failed ourselves some way. People or some wouldn’t want to be around us because they feel something is wrong with us as well as they guard their kids when they find that some of us don’t have any, that’s when society come into play to judge majority of us and label us in their department.

Love seems harder as we get older, so much of being picky, the looks and our figures ( financial figures) seem to stretch out to were society is making it out that everything has to be perfect and if you are not were we expect you to be at then why are you here? Of course some of us pick up on that vibration very hard and just get out of touch on life to be completely alone in our own world.

Being single has its problems, but overlooking being single, alone, unmarried and childless is something a strong hearted soul survivor would crave and never think any less of anything, but happiness and positivity to look at things in a certain way and move forward.

Being single at a certain age seem like the end, but never thought about the reason and cause, but to embrace it and accept it as a privilege to be more free and expressive in so many ways. To look at life and society is to say, Hey” I’m winning no matter what, I got this and I will be happy however life blows apples, I will gather a whole fruit basket and enjoy every moment of it.

Being married is not always a happy ending, having children doesn’t make you a super adult or amazing person, it just creative thinking of fitting in and being accepted without thinking about were you intensively ready for it? And your peace and alone time seem to be violated, your mind is not there and whatever happens has to be a plan and not the way you want it,, Lol!! Yes some of us singles do sit back and think that and is happy that we are not good enough to go through with this type of action and accept just having casual sex as part of the norm.

Being single really ain’t a death sentence, it’s just life moving faster and some things change in society and some of us feel comfortable being who we are and not making it a big issue and just to live is a privilege.

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