As people get older, they have fewer friends

When I was young, I always felt that there were a lot of friends around me who could talk, have thoughts to tell, think together, have troubles, find a scenic spot to wander, have fun and drink freely... At that time, I was proud of my friends all over the world and had a clear conscience for my loyalty to my friends.

Later, we broke up into parts and went to different environments to study or work. There were always people who volunteered to plan where to travel and where to get together. They told the story of the beginning, recalling the thoughts after farewell and seeking opportunities for mutual improvement. The short gathering brought us closer to each other. That kind of atmosphere is really unforgettable.

I don't know what day it is or what year it is. Suddenly found that many friends who used to say nothing have not been in touch for many years. The old classmates who used to chat all night about their troubles have now become no longer disturbed. In the face of full phone numbers in the address book, we can't dial as recklessly as before.

Alas! The heroic old Zhu returned to the countryside after graduating from high school and had long lost contact; The fat man Yi, who is holding a guitar with me and wants to go south to Guangdong to break the world, doesn't even have a wechat now; Wang GUI, who wanted to be my blood ally and became the sworn enemy of Taoyuan, has not heard from me for many years

At this moment, it is not that friends have disappeared, but that with the changes of work or living environment, they are too far away from each other, there are fewer opportunities to meet, and the friendship is diluted by time, which slowly alienates this friendship. Although we can communicate and communicate online at any time, just like the long-distance love, it is more real than meeting, lacking the face-to-face contact that can feel each other's breath.

Looking back at myself, the connection with my friends is like the green silk on my head is becoming more and more scarce. Old friends have not seen for many years, but they are not in a hurry to mention it and don't call. Occasionally, the thought of a meeting flashed through the bottom of my heart. When I turned around and swayed, I felt that I could pass by slightly. It's a holiday. Is he going to play mahjong? Is he going to accompany his grandson to the interest class? Is he angry with his wife and doesn't want to see anyone? Think about it. There's nothing to say when we meet. Work, body, classmates... Are all topics on the wheels. Rolling over and over, you can't find anything new. When I think about it like this, I feel that many spits can be swallowed, and many idioms, old sayings and old sayings can be omitted.

It seems to be really old. When I meet an old friend I haven't seen for many years, I don't bite and hum like a little bee when I was young. At best, it's nothing more than this: go to his side, nod, bend over, smile, and even greetings can be omitted; Or pick a quiet corner and watch him talk to others and his smile when talking to others. Know a person, pay attention to a person, and choose such a location on the other bank: without a word or a word, the wind is clear and the clouds are light. After that, thinking or not thinking is like a breeze.

Over time, once close friends gradually become good friends - ordinary friends - acquaintances, gradually degenerate, and finally become a symbol in the address book.

What about those colleagues who get along day and night? Working in a unit for a long time, in order to get a job and communicate with each other, they will take the initiative to release some goodwill, force themselves to do what they don't like to do, and force themselves to say what they don't like to say. Always polite or perfunctory, or even put on a mask to disguise, with their own thoughts, blowing irrelevant cowhide, talking about irrelevant topics, with a bit of hypocrisy between each other, it is difficult to be sincere. After work, we go to eat and drink together, or go to karaoke, or go for a walk and chat. It seems that there is love and righteousness. However, this relationship is only reluctantly maintained due to the relationship between colleagues. After someone changes the department or project, they rarely contact each other again.

The relationship between comparison and competition in the workplace is mixed with vanity and interests. Most of the communication between them is completed through the exchange of social resources. In our work, we often choose to be with some people, that is, we want to get some things we need from each other, money, promotion, contacts... The people who will really help us are often those who have interests with us. When we can give benefits to others, others will approach us and give back some benefits to us. In fact, these friends are very superficial. They don't have many deep friends and don't even necessarily like each other. When there is no interest relationship with each other, the life transaction is unbalanced. Even if we are still working in the same unit, we will gradually reduce contact.

Of course, in our work, we can also meet friends with similar aspirations and noble people who sincerely think of us and contribute to us. The two sides will have more exchanges and share the joys, sorrows and joys of work or life together. However, when someone gets promoted, because of the change of personal status, they don't belong to the same category. Because the distance between work and life circles is widened, it may be because he is better than me. He raises the level of making friends and naturally abandons me; Some old colleagues avoid me, perhaps because he is worse than me and doesn't want to be stimulated by me. This friendship between friends came to an end unconsciously.

People are old and cherish their old friends, but they dare not disturb them easily. Sometimes I feel lonely and prefer to be alone. Sometimes I feel like I have something to say, but I still choose silence. I have to restrain all my previous apathy, settle down and frown, and be an ordinary old man in the world of fireworks. Life is as leisurely and quiet as falling flowers. Therefore, the invited banquet will no longer participate; So, a rare encounter, a smile

Alas! People walk in the years, more and more lonely, more and more vast and sparsely populated. Pride is getting shorter day by day, and the flame of passion is getting lower and lower. Communication is more and more convenient, but the contact between friends is less and less; The transportation is more and more convenient, but the meeting between friends is less and less; Social networks are becoming more and more diverse, but the circle of friends is becoming more and more lonely. People are getting older and friends are getting fewer!